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Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Only if you kiss me first.If you're at a bar and a girl asks you this, what is a good reply?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's generally a stupid move to start offering free stuff to random strangers.For those who claim to not buy a girl drinks does that apply if you approach her?
Do you ever offer her drinks instead?
Just curious, im still a rookie.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You won’t find them conning me. If one approached me about buying her a drink I’d just say “no now get away from me before I yell sexual harassment, creep!”I've seen enough guys buy women drinks, then the women walk back to their pack of hyenas laughing about getting yet another gullible guy. Men spend way more at bars than women, and the bars know that some sucker will be buying shots and such for the girls. And girls can have zero money in their purse and still walk out drunk with their friends.
I can identify with this. I have bought women who had higher salaries than I had at the time drinks on dates. I don't that happened in a regular bar pickup situation since I have bought way more drinks on dates than standard pickup. I maintain buying drinks for women at the bar during pickup died in the 2000s.Women want equal rights until the check comes, it's like yeah ohhhhkay!!!!
Wow. How difficult life is for women. Imagine that, having to worry about whether to accept free drinks every time you go out at night?![]()
Is It Okay To Let A Guy Buy You A Drink And Not Sleep With Him?
The paradox of life really does start and end with women at the club. It's the ultimate lose-lose: if you sleep with him you're a hoe, if you don't sleep with him you're a tease. So when you're at the club and a man offers to buy you a drink, is it…www.elitedaily.com
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've rarely had this happen either...Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
It was a thing 20 years ago. Not so much now. Can't remember the last time it happened to me.Girls never ask me to buy them a drink. I don't know if this is a thing. I frequently ask them to buy me a drink.
I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.Only if you kiss me first.
It doesn't really matter what it implies. If she wants to kiss you, she'll kiss you. And if she doesn't, she has no business asking you for a drink.I don't like it because it implies it is a privledge for you to kiss her. But the idea is respond with some sort of joke.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Probably a femin@azi. You can never win with one of those.Her friends thought it was hilarious ( all except the short haired angry looking one…)
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.