"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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also, every guy here would **** her brains out if she threw herself at you. Well not every guy, but most of you taking ****
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well i thank everyone for the comments, both good and bad. i asked for honesty and i got it. im not upset, everyone is entitled to his own opinion. and yes, i love her and want to be with her despite what anyone else would think. this wasnt meant to help make up my mind if i should stay with her, just to feed a simple curiosity. so thanks again.
 
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Originally posted by AC/DC
Some of you need to learn how to respect women. She could lose 20 pounds? Why don't some of YOU lose 20 pounds? You're not losing weight typing on this forum. You're not burning calories. You're the kind of people that order a McDonalds meal and get DIET SODA: losers.
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I'm already in great shape, smartass.

She is not.

And just as a reminder, the original poster asked for comments on her looks. What the hell else did you people expect?
 
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She's an average cute girl!

Good luck!


Sayno'
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i already showed her... that was the biggest mistake of my life.
 
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Originally posted by jlr12584
i already showed her... that was the biggest mistake of my life.
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that has to be one of the worst moves in the history of dating.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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:rolleyes: :confused:
 
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Well, I'd bang her.

Cute girl, nice face, big tits, but just a tad flabby.
 
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Originally posted by AC/DC
Some of you need to learn how to respect women. She could lose 20 pounds? Why don't some of YOU lose 20 pounds? You're not losing weight typing on this forum. You're not burning calories. You're the kind of people that order a McDonalds meal and get DIET SODA: losers.

How are you gonna tell a guy his girlfriend is ugly? You're all here because you're single and have no game, right? I think she looks good. You're entitled to your opinion, you are not entitled to disrespect her.
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Cool down big boy.

Sounds like you might be dating a chunky chunky...
 
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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Cool down big boy.

Sounds like you might be dating a chunky chunky...
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Haha no, not at the moment.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by jlr12584
i dunno, tell me what u think about us? look good as a couple? is she cute? am i okay looking? no, im not gonna roll over and die if someone says something bad but im just curious as to what other ppl think



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I'll be honest, you are probably a better catch for a female than she is for a male. You have a good physique and look good. She is good looking but as others have said, needs to lose a little bit of weight.
 
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Originally posted by jlr12584
i already showed her... that was the biggest mistake of my life.
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WHAT? I was only joking...yet the guy tells me he already showed her? Poor girls going to be a little depressed now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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