You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That's not being direct at all, that's fluff talking and asking for a number. I just told you what to do.Konada said:Well I've tried going the direct route and so far hasn't been resulted in any number closes.
Recent one:
Me: Hey Konada here. Nice to meet you
HB8: Hey! Why are you up so early on a Sunday? I guess im gg to slp now
Me: Can't sleep. What abot you sleepyhead?
HB8: Omg you haven't slept since yesterday? <insert her sleeping schedule here>
Me: Lol so what else do you do other than sleep?
HB8: Hey just woke up. I sleep alot during the weekends cos I have school early on the weekdays. Nothing much other than work, school and sometimes having fun.
Me: Wow seems like you have a rather exciting life
HB8: Haha I just have a normal school life. Wbu?
Me: Well why not you give me your number so I can tell you over text
<1hour later>
HB8: Hahaha im outside
<2 hours later>
HB8: Im back home hahaha
<2 hours later>
HB8: Hey i know this is a dumb question but do you know xxx?
Advice on how to proceed
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah I know thats not direct. Its a different game I used for experimenting after I got blown off by several matches by being overly sexual in the first few texts.BackInTheGame78 said:That's not being direct at all, that's fluff talking and asking for a number. I just told you what to do.
Just do what I told you...there is a way that to do it that turns them on and a way that turns them off.Konada said:Yeah I know thats not direct. Its a different game I used for experimenting after I got blown off by several matches by being overly sexual in the first few texts.
The level of creepiness is always in direct proportion to how good looking they think you areLozboss said:If it works for you Back then go for it.
Having been on tinder being overtly sexual is seen as creepy.
But you need to tighten your game, that text chat is weak.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Is this real life?Konada said:Recent one:
Me: Hey Konada here. Nice to meet you
HB8: Hey! Why are you up so early on a Sunday? I guess im gg to slp now
Me: Can't sleep. What abot you sleepyhead?
HB8: Omg you haven't slept since yesterday? <insert her sleeping schedule here>
Me: Lol so what else do you do other than sleep?
HB8: Hey just woke up. I sleep alot during the weekends cos I have school early on the weekdays. Nothing much other than work, school and sometimes having fun.
Me: Wow seems like you have a rather exciting life
HB8: Haha I just have a normal school life. Wbu?
Me: Well why not you give me your number so I can tell you over text
<1hour later>
HB8: Hahaha im outside
<2 hours later>
HB8: Im back home hahaha
<2 hours later>
HB8: Hey i know this is a dumb question but do you know xxx?
Anyone?Konada said:Never came across one before though, need advice.
Me: So when are you free to try out that white wine?
HB7: Hahaha when are you free. You seem like the busy one.
Me: Thurs/sat evening
<no response>
Wait for her to reply or follow up with something in 1-2 days time?
You already got solid advice and refused to listen, why do you keep asking for more?Konada said:Anyone?