Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's not being direct at all, that's fluff talking and asking for a number. I just told you what to do.Konada said:Well I've tried going the direct route and so far hasn't been resulted in any number closes.
Recent one:
Me: Hey Konada here. Nice to meet you
HB8: Hey! Why are you up so early on a Sunday? I guess im gg to slp now
Me: Can't sleep. What abot you sleepyhead?
HB8: Omg you haven't slept since yesterday? <insert her sleeping schedule here>
Me: Lol so what else do you do other than sleep?
HB8: Hey just woke up. I sleep alot during the weekends cos I have school early on the weekdays. Nothing much other than work, school and sometimes having fun.
Me: Wow seems like you have a rather exciting life
HB8: Haha I just have a normal school life. Wbu?
Me: Well why not you give me your number so I can tell you over text
<1hour later>
HB8: Hahaha im outside
<2 hours later>
HB8: Im back home hahaha
<2 hours later>
HB8: Hey i know this is a dumb question but do you know xxx?
Advice on how to proceed
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeah I know thats not direct. Its a different game I used for experimenting after I got blown off by several matches by being overly sexual in the first few texts.BackInTheGame78 said:That's not being direct at all, that's fluff talking and asking for a number. I just told you what to do.
Just do what I told you...there is a way that to do it that turns them on and a way that turns them off.Konada said:Yeah I know thats not direct. Its a different game I used for experimenting after I got blown off by several matches by being overly sexual in the first few texts.
The level of creepiness is always in direct proportion to how good looking they think you areLozboss said:If it works for you Back then go for it.
Having been on tinder being overtly sexual is seen as creepy.
But you need to tighten your game, that text chat is weak.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Is this real life?Konada said:Recent one:
Me: Hey Konada here. Nice to meet you
HB8: Hey! Why are you up so early on a Sunday? I guess im gg to slp now
Me: Can't sleep. What abot you sleepyhead?
HB8: Omg you haven't slept since yesterday? <insert her sleeping schedule here>
Me: Lol so what else do you do other than sleep?
HB8: Hey just woke up. I sleep alot during the weekends cos I have school early on the weekdays. Nothing much other than work, school and sometimes having fun.
Me: Wow seems like you have a rather exciting life
HB8: Haha I just have a normal school life. Wbu?
Me: Well why not you give me your number so I can tell you over text
<1hour later>
HB8: Hahaha im outside
<2 hours later>
HB8: Im back home hahaha
<2 hours later>
HB8: Hey i know this is a dumb question but do you know xxx?
Anyone?Konada said:Never came across one before though, need advice.
Me: So when are you free to try out that white wine?
HB7: Hahaha when are you free. You seem like the busy one.
Me: Thurs/sat evening
<no response>
Wait for her to reply or follow up with something in 1-2 days time?
You already got solid advice and refused to listen, why do you keep asking for more?Konada said:Anyone?