I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
so how long have you been working out? give us an example of what you eat everyday and what supplements you take...oneshot said:wow...nice guess...actually around 158lbs...
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158lbs
body fat: will figure that out soon
motivation: lost a fight and got pissed:box: (not pissed anymore)
um... I started out at about...135lbs...get a trainer/someone experienced to teach you all the basics...do the stuff everyday and you're there
hmmm...my intention is not to put my body on display (althought that is basically what im doing), but have some intellectual muscle discussions
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any of you got pics?
hmmm...started out with only pushups and pullups... if you'd call that working out.... been hitting the gym since June 2006Ken785 said:so how long have you been working out? give us an example of what you eat everyday and what supplements you take...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LOL doesn't matter at all these are just 'stats' and 'numbers' which mean nothing. It's about wearing down the fibres and making them grow bigger. I think the OP has a nice physique given his age etc. and he has a nice shape to him as well.wolf116 said:Soooooo...... How much do you squat?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I was just wondering about the way he trains, I think the kid is doing great.Mad Manic said:LOL doesn't matter at all these are just 'stats' and 'numbers' which mean nothing. It's about wearing down the fibres and making them grow bigger. I think the OP has a nice physique given his age etc. and he has a nice shape to him as well.
MM
If he puts up pics of good upper body poses then what relevance is there in asking him what he squats? Better to ask him what he does for his chest or shoulders as there are what look good in the pics.wolf116 said:I was just wondering about the way he trains, I think the kid is doing great.
He just didn't answer when I first asked.
Just wondering if he is balanced. Heaps of guys just work their upper body and they just start to look retarded. I just had a feeling he neglects his lower body.Mad Manic said:If he puts up pics of good upper body poses then what relevance is there in asking him what he squats? Better to ask him what he does for his chest or shoulders as there are what look good in the pics.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.