Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
so how long have you been working out? give us an example of what you eat everyday and what supplements you take...oneshot said:wow...nice guess...actually around 158lbs...
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158lbs
body fat: will figure that out soon
motivation: lost a fight and got pissed:box: (not pissed anymore)
um... I started out at about...135lbs...get a trainer/someone experienced to teach you all the basics...do the stuff everyday and you're there
hmmm...my intention is not to put my body on display (althought that is basically what im doing), but have some intellectual muscle discussions
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any of you got pics?
hmmm...started out with only pushups and pullups... if you'd call that working out.... been hitting the gym since June 2006Ken785 said:so how long have you been working out? give us an example of what you eat everyday and what supplements you take...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LOL doesn't matter at all these are just 'stats' and 'numbers' which mean nothing. It's about wearing down the fibres and making them grow bigger. I think the OP has a nice physique given his age etc. and he has a nice shape to him as well.wolf116 said:Soooooo...... How much do you squat?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I was just wondering about the way he trains, I think the kid is doing great.Mad Manic said:LOL doesn't matter at all these are just 'stats' and 'numbers' which mean nothing. It's about wearing down the fibres and making them grow bigger. I think the OP has a nice physique given his age etc. and he has a nice shape to him as well.
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If he puts up pics of good upper body poses then what relevance is there in asking him what he squats? Better to ask him what he does for his chest or shoulders as there are what look good in the pics.wolf116 said:I was just wondering about the way he trains, I think the kid is doing great.
He just didn't answer when I first asked.
Just wondering if he is balanced. Heaps of guys just work their upper body and they just start to look retarded. I just had a feeling he neglects his lower body.Mad Manic said:If he puts up pics of good upper body poses then what relevance is there in asking him what he squats? Better to ask him what he does for his chest or shoulders as there are what look good in the pics.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.