This really comes down to why OP "assumed" this would be a 1 on 1 meeting. I don't think that is something you just assume - especially if a woman is asking you to an event. Normally speaking, rarely does a woman directly ask a man out on a 1 on 1 date. It happens, albeit very rarely. I would have assumed it was a social event - not vice versa.
And that begs the question that if OP was interested, why wasn't he asking her out 1 on 1 himself and skipping over all the fluff beforehand? Seemed like he was setting himself up to be placed into an orbiter/friend category by this woman.
He didn't assume it would be a one-on-one meeting. The key phrase in the first post was "not enough time to make anything happen". If a woman is comfortable enough inviting a man to a public event, that's a woman who is worth asking for a one-on-one date.I recently met a woman through a mutual friend. I got a little 1 on 1 time with her but not enough to make anything happen. The next day she invited me out to a sports bar to watch a big boxing match. I assumed it would just be her and her friends again.
There's so much lack of experience in this thread its not even funny.You're making good points, BUT:
1. you've seen her photo, and @Giovanni SouthSide nailed it with the description.
2. it's poor taste to invite a guy to hang out when she's in a group of friends that includes a dude with obvious interest in her. Even without that photo which shows she has mileage on her, a +30yrs old woman knows that interactions with guys are for a romantic/sexual purpose, unless clearly specified otherwise (for instance work related).
You clearly misunderstood the situation OP was in.If you have not experienced a girl inviting you out to meet her friends, you are just not social enough.
Girls who are social and have good healthy friendships would invite u out to see what her friends think about you because its just a smart thing to do as a woman, to have your friends opinions. Girls who just want fun don't do this. It's usually something a woman does when she's looking for something serious.
Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.
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"WTF are you talking about" -- clearly something you wouldn't understand homieYou clearly misunderstood the situation OP was in.
She wasn't inviting him out to meet her friends.
She wasn't "looking for something serious".
WTF are you talking about?
Whoah...relax homie. Don't get so worked up homie. We don't want to have another incident like last night where you start angrily blowing up my inbox homie."WTF are you talking about" -- clearly something you wouldn't understand homie
She invited him out and had friends there who made very clear they were just friends with her. You and every other weak scarcity/beta male insecure thinker have a weird perspective that she invited him out to like cuck him or something.. I'm sorry if your experience with women has been THAT bad --that you cannot understand my perspective, as a guy who is confident and been in similar situations and does not see it as a big deal..
It's called deceit by omission. Look it up. Try education yourself for once instead of preaching all the time.It seems OP was just in his head and mad/jealous that she had a guy friend there guys learn to see things clearly and not with some weird resentful victim mindset.
Her friends, not her orbiters. There's a big difference.Girls who are social and have good healthy friendships would invite u out to see what her friends think about you because its just a smart thing to do as a woman, to have your friends opinions.
The photo adds a lot of context, because it makes it clear we're not dealing with a sweet innocent girl who unknowingly mislead OP or OP got the wrong idea and that orbiter guy was in fact just a protective friend as you and @BeExcellent imply. Yeah right.The photo has absolutely 0 to do with anything.. That's just deluded thinking. If anything she looks like a sweet girl to me and i'm far from your average joe.
There's so much lack of experience in this thread its not even funny.
If you have not experienced a girl inviting you out to meet her friends, you are just not social enough. Sorry but it happens and it happens often. Not a big deal. If someone doesn't make it a date, it wont be a date. Normal women don't make the first move, the guy has to. Best they can do is give you a hint they are into you by making opportunities to allow you to work off of.
In my opinion, its reality.Anything else is just cynical "women are bad and evil" scarcity/weak mentality/victim mindset.
Man I got to give it to you, you are very positive in your thinking.OP might have some things to work on and jus might lack the experience of a girl inviting him out to meet her friends. He might not be social enough in knowing how to handle the situation or to communicate with the girl well enough. He also probably hasn't made a move or made his intentions clear.. and is just hoping she makes the first move..
Girls who are social and have good healthy friendships would invite u out to see what her friends think about you because its just a smart thing to do as a woman, to have your friends opinions. Girls who just want fun don't do this. It's usually something a woman does when she's looking for something serious.
Come on bro. That does not look like a Mormon chick. That looks like Jennifer Lopez’s cousin, can play guys like a fiddle.The photo has absolutely 0 to do with anything.. That's just deluded thinking. If anything she looks like a sweet girl to me and i'm far from your average joe. I've dealt with more woman than most people even have a chance to interact with.
"WTF are you talking about" -- clearly something you wouldn't understand homie
She invited him out and had friends there who made very clear they were just friends with her. You and every other weak scarcity/beta male insecure thinker have a weird perspective that she invited him out to like cuck him or something.. I'm sorry if your experience with women has been THAT bad --that you cannot understand my perspective, as a guy who is confident and been in similar situations and does not see it as a big deal.. Just like anything, you gotta know how to navigate the situation.
It seems OP was just in his head and mad/jealous that she had a guy friend there so instead of socializing with her and her friend and then stealing her/taking her aside and making some moves or telling her he was hoping she was by herself so he could get to know her-- (which is weird becuase hes the one who should set up a date, if she invites him out, shes not obligated to be alone like I Mentioned as she didnt say it was a date and girls dont make the first move)
OP just didn't know how to navigate/socialize so he just gave up and got angry at the girl. Like bro, the dude told you hes just a friend... its not his fault or the girls fault.. OP may just not be socially calibrated enough to deal with the situation or look past it and still ask her out on a proper date like a man.
The people who get it, know. (basic social dynamics) For the rest of you, hopefully you guys learn to see things clearly and not with some weird resentful victim mindset.
Whoah...relax homie. Don't get so worked up homie. We don't want to have another incident like last night where you start angrily blowing up my inbox homie.
It's called deceit by omission. Look it up. Try education yourself for once instead of preaching all the time.
OP thought it was going to be him and her. Going by OP's posts, he ain't no spring chicken homie. Therefore, it seems he was mislead.
Yeah, he didn't ask the right questions. However, he shouldn't have to. In this instance, she seemed to have gained some trust from him...and through their conversation, it was implied that it was 1 on 1. You know why? She invited him out and she didn't tell him there was going to be anyone else there. She didn't say, "come on out, I'd like you to meet some of my friends" like you stated in your first comment. She invited him out, didn't tell him about the situation. She ****ed with him. It was on purpose. She knew she was deceiving him. If she didn't know, she's an idiot. Either way, while you're someone who'd be there spending your time trying to lap that BPD pvssy up, I'm bouncing to greener pastures. I have better things to do.
This is an emotionally-charged post but I agree with your criticisms of the OP. He also could have screened better.At no point in this entire thread did the herd of victim mentality, club of socially inept, or the squad of beta males think for a second that MAYBE the OP just lacks social skills, or the fact that he didnt make any move at all, or think of inviting her on a date.
This does need to be a seducer's board and not an incel board or Average Frustrated Chump board. This is a good point.Please guys.. wake df up and realize your perspective is FAR from the ultimate. Your perspective if negative, is about as ideal as a man who never goes outside. You're literally going to scare the only few of us who enjoy abundance with women away from this forum. YOu gus already scared literally everyone else away.. Dudes who are confident and enjoy abundance do not want to be associated or read your nonsense perspectives .. Its really cringe. Look around, how many real players are left on SS? IF we put a spotlght on everyone and got to see what everyones truly like, you'd see abuncha strange creepy dudes staring at each other.. and thats sad.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
and appear naive enough to think that 30+ old women in general and a woman that looks like the one in the photo in particular has male friends.Good lookin girls need 0 validation.
Are those the actions of a 'male friend' (nonsensical notion in this context) or those of an orbiter?I got the opportunity to ask her girl friend what the situation is between her and that guy and she said it's just her friend. The guy monopolized her attention and I could tell he was being a bit protective when I would initiate conversation with her.
The attitudes and perspectives of some of these people are so telling. I'm surprised they're not embarrassed. Its like holding up a flag that says "Ive been victimized by women, Women hate me, I have no game" .. I feel like dudes who hav that mindset should at least try to "fake" a better attitude lol.. i mean at least for the sake of what this forum originally intended to be, a place for Don Juans and players to gather and talk about women .. but i think people just have an emotional reaction to whatever people post.. that triggers a part of them that remembers being hurt by a woman or various women... its just sad. I think real life forums or a club would be better.. Because the losers would just get tossed out lol like bro you DO NOT belong here. Your perspectives DO NOT resonate with us.. lol -- We need to see their faces when they say this stuff. Do they fold their arms together with an angry pouting face or what lolThis is an emotionally-charged post but I agree with your criticisms of the OP
100% agree. and i'm glad there's people here that see it the same way.This does need to be a seducer's board and not an incel board or Average Frustrated Chump board. This is a good point.
I shouldn't even respond to you because you lack any comprehension skills. You said she never invited him out to meet with friends.
Yeah, I know. We all read his post.There were TWO instances she invited him out to something where there were friends.
Wow, you really know how to twist the truth.And I only DMed you bec ause you tried to call me out because I mentioned something about Robert Deniro's success and being a Jew in Hollywood, despite me deleting the original post. I told you sorry that it offended you :'(. and then you dmed me the exact thing I said when i confronted you , like you actually copied and kept what I said like a little snitch.
Maybe you should take some time off from this forum and get your bearings straight.You are not worthy to discuss this at all. 1) No comprehension skills 2) probably no skills with women. You have no idea what you're talking about. Even the only woman perspective in here agreed with my points. Enjoy living with a victim mindset. I hope it serves you well.
Weak dudes blame the girl. Real men don't blame the girl or her friends.. They blame themselves from being too scared to set up a n actual date or learn how to socialize with everyone and then end up taking the girl home.
The thing about it is, you do not realize how TELLING your attitudes/perspectives on this basic situation is. It shows a lack of basic social dynamics + lack of success with women.. /resentment towards women. I don't blame you guys since you're probably a product of your unfortunate circumstances but damn it must suck to be in your shoes.
You already ousted yourself as someone who has victim minded weird cynical thinking.. which is quite embarrassing. Even if I thought like you , I wouldn't want people to know because its basically telling me you've had nothing but sh.itty experiences with women and possibly lack enough social experience. But, you keep taking things way too personal and don't really make any good points, so congrats on being the first person I block/ignore on the forum.Learn reading comprehension. You meant the purpose of her inviting him out was to meet her friends. On the second occasion, that was news to the OP.
How is this so difficult for you to understand?
Yeah, I know. We all read his post.
Wow, you really know how to twist the truth.
You're so off here. I'm telling you, stop lying. You're straight up making **** up.
Again, I was trying to look out for you.
Maybe you should take some time off from this forum and get your bearings straight.
Please do. And please don't send me any more messages.so congrats on being the first person I block/ignore on the forum.