The irony of "it aint that deep" is its some of YOU guys who are making it deep. I'm the one who just broke it down for what I seen. The people who agree with me: The only female perspective on this forum, BillyPilgrim who's a former DJ/mature more experienced guy and SW15 who is also a mature experienced male who alot of what he says definitely resonates with me, despite us not agreeing on everything.. and a few others that I don't know so well or might not have read enough posts/comments from to understand their perspectives.
Here's what I said initially on page 4:
The odd/funny thing is you even liked the post, I would guess in Agreement. I mean you guys are acting like she's obligated to anything with him.. but I already mentioned multiple times, I think that-- alot of perspectives just come from a lack of experience of being invited by a girl to something, where she had male friends present. I've had the experience a few times and its not a big deal.
But yeah I shouldn't be so hard .. you're right alot of dudes are kinda AFC and -- I think my thing is just being slightly frustrated seeing the same negative perspectives on everything lol. Regardless, I still see alot of good change on the forum since a few years back
Once again though I believe that all of this falls on the OP for how he reacted and lack of maneuvering/taking action/setting up a proper date. We can't blame the girl. we can't continue to blame women all the time. It's embarrassing to see men blame women all the time.
I absolutely agree with your previous, quoted post, hence the like I gave ( I like posts regardless of who send it, I just look at the content and context).
My geuss is that most men have been in a similar situation at least once. And ESPECIALLY the man (AFC) that has trouble reading situations will be unpleasantly surprised if a woman acts like this. A more
" flexible player" will know that dealing with women = constantly improvising if necessary.
Now, my only problem with the woman is that she should handle her dating life properly. Unfortunately OP didn't gave us more information about how he interacted with her, who asked who ect. But I agree and repeat; it aint that deep. A woman pulling this **** is NOT as interested as one might've hoped.
***real life example **
A friend ,or i should say guy i know well calls me up in at 02:00 on a saterday night after we partied some. He is with his gf and another woman. The other woman wants some, is high AF and he calls me to come over.
I am like feck it I go and i introduce myself to the girl. We sit down and make out some. She is high af, i am high af and she ask me if i can get some to smoke. I go out and get it, return and there's a male friend invited.
It is clear at this piont that she didn't want to feck me, but already set shyte up in such a way that logically my expectation is sex. Her male orbiter friend comes to "save her ". I return with the smoke and despite it's clear sex is off the table i decide to give her the smoke(she payed for it anyway) and just ride out my high with these "strangers ".
Yes, due my experience with women i don't really care that sex is off the table. I rather dont feck a woman who regrets it due being too wasted. And a woman can retract herself at any moment. I took the L, hanged out and got back home peaceful and happy.