She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etcPDubb75 said:Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etcPDubb75 said:Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
^ThisIamJosan said:If you don't like chubby girls, then don't date em! It's hard to make people change.
This might just work..Im gonig to do that tonight plus the story telling about how i like fit girlsDonJuanit0 said:When an ex of mine put some weight on, I actually told her! After sex I touched her belly and said in a playfull way, "hey, what's this woman?" She answered "leave me alone!" in a playfull way too! That was the beggining, after that, a couple of days later I asked her if she would be interested in joining me in jogging cause I wanted to exercise my body a little bit and it would be a great chance for her to lose those extra pounds in her belly!
I believe that you should tell her! We are supposed to have what we want and not compromise with less that that!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.