I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etcPDubb75 said:Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etcPDubb75 said:Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
^ThisIamJosan said:If you don't like chubby girls, then don't date em! It's hard to make people change.
This might just work..Im gonig to do that tonight plus the story telling about how i like fit girlsDonJuanit0 said:When an ex of mine put some weight on, I actually told her! After sex I touched her belly and said in a playfull way, "hey, what's this woman?" She answered "leave me alone!" in a playfull way too! That was the beggining, after that, a couple of days later I asked her if she would be interested in joining me in jogging cause I wanted to exercise my body a little bit and it would be a great chance for her to lose those extra pounds in her belly!
I believe that you should tell her! We are supposed to have what we want and not compromise with less that that!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.