"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to get a girl to loose some weight?

Crissco

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Got a girl im seeing, sorta. A bit on the chunk side but by no means fat. She'll be a bombshell if she looses some weight. Any good tips for this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tell her she's fat. I'm sure it will motivate her to lose weight. You just won't be in the picture when she does :D

The only thing I can think of would be taking her out to do more active things. But unless you spend a lot of time with her and do this often, shes gotta get on board and try to lose the weight herself. I don't see how you can really get her to do that... safely.

Inception?
 

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Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
 

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PDubb75 said:
Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etc

Thanks for the advice bro
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Crissco

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PDubb75 said:
Interesting article, but geared more towards relationships. But the one you mentioned could easily be adapted to your situation. I know some girls that would respond really well to these things. I even know some that would prefer if someone straight up told them they needed to lose weight. But others would flip out at any of these suggestions. Just be careful.
Exactly why im not going to tell he straight up, if it comes down to it I will. Im probably going to mention something about fitness, and how I love girls who work out...its very sexy...etc

Thanks for the advice bro
 

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Got it. Since this girls into me really hard, and since the fact I met her on a dating site, she obv wants to date.

Im going to say "I love girls who work out, it shows dedication, especially if im in a relashionship with them, it proves to me that there loyal"
 

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Buy a bag of baby carrots

every time she tried to eat something fatty , smack it out of her hand and give here a carrot =] or some celery

If she gets offended you can play it off a s a joke , but you will get here thinking ,just tease her , like **** that's obviously over reacting since shes not that chunky, a good one would be when she gets in your car , as soon as she sits down , go "Woah! easy on the shocks! this car needs to last" lol

Im mostly joking around , but you get the idea
 

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Actions speak louder than words.

Lead by example.

I doubt that talking to her about it would change anything.

But if she sees you looking your best, getting attention from other girls, and realises that you're willing to walk away unless she shapes up, that should motivate her to follow your lead.

If not...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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chances are slim man. last girl i was with was a whale and she didn't look like she was losing that anytime soon. she was always drinking coke and it put me off. i couldn't take it anymore and just ditched her. find a healthy girl :D
 

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She saw me looking awesome today, she kept feeling my muscles.


Shes coming over next weekend, how about i take her out, and flirt with other girls that look better then her??
 

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U can't change ppl at all. U can be koy and do active things with her and eat healthy with her but that is it otherwise she is who she is and if u r a **** and say something to her then all u r going to do is give her a complex. If u r not serious about her then just have some fun with her but if u r serious about her then u better accept how she looks and accept the potential for some extra lbs if u r with her for a long time.
 

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Trying to change her to becoming skinny is like them trying to change bad boys into good men.

Pretty much a freaking waste of time. Only disappointment, heartbreaks and regret awaits you
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When an ex of mine put some weight on, I actually told her! After sex I touched her belly and said in a playfull way, "hey, what's this woman?" She answered "leave me alone!" in a playfull way too! That was the beggining, after that, a couple of days later I asked her if she would be interested in joining me in jogging cause I wanted to exercise my body a little bit and it would be a great chance for her to lose those extra pounds in her belly!

I believe that you should tell her! We are supposed to have what we want and not compromise with less that that!
 

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I've recently lost 15 lb of fat so I know exactly how to do this.

1) Detox - get her the Zand Cleansing Kit - it's a bunch of natural herbs (as of today these are now outlawed in Europe but have been safely used for thousands of years).

2) Fresh Grapefruit first thing in the morning on an empty stomach.

3) Fresh squeezed Lemonade with Stevia and filtered water as your main drink.

4) Green Tea.

5) Bicycling (have a destination that is 5-10 miles away).
 

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Say "you should come to the gym with me, you'd look like a model if you trained", bully her into it.
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
When an ex of mine put some weight on, I actually told her! After sex I touched her belly and said in a playfull way, "hey, what's this woman?" She answered "leave me alone!" in a playfull way too! That was the beggining, after that, a couple of days later I asked her if she would be interested in joining me in jogging cause I wanted to exercise my body a little bit and it would be a great chance for her to lose those extra pounds in her belly!

I believe that you should tell her! We are supposed to have what we want and not compromise with less that that!
This might just work..Im gonig to do that tonight plus the story telling about how i like fit girls
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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