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Does your mother count?How do you answer when a woman asks you how many women you have had sex with?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Does your mother count?How do you answer when a woman asks you how many women you have had sex with?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yes and yesLet me ask you guys a question. Has a woman ever asked you this right before sex?
Has this question ever led to sex?
Every time a woman has wondered about my sexual experience, when my answer made them think I was inexperienced they were turned off and when they imagined I was experienced they were turned on. Women in my experience want to imagine that you are popular with and have fvcked loads of women.What should the sexually inexperienced guy say who obviously can't joke his way out of this question say? I think that is the kind of guy who a question like this would cripple...
I like the "I don't Kiss and tell" for that one.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Either say "I'm a virgin" or "one hundred thousand".How do you answer when a woman asks you how many women you have had sex with?
You don't.How do you answer when a woman asks you how many women you have had sex with?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Agreed. I prefer a secure man who doesn’t back away from his sexual appeal.I'm often surprised by what couples decide to say and do to each other, even though poor judgment should no longer surprise. It's probably actually just disappointment. We seem to get stupider, as a species, with each technological advancement.
Some couples know the intimate details of each other's previous relationships, better than they know the details of their own children's lives. It's an unhealthy obsession, if you ask me, and ends nowhere good.
I don't think a man needs to be necessarily ashamed or embarrassed by his appeal to women, in order to play it down. If he overplays his downplaying, then, yes, that will come across as defensive, and may signify an insecurity. But, simply being nonchalantly oblivious or dismissive to the insinuation should be fine...unless a man's playboy reputation is part of his appeal to the girl in question.
If she won't let it drop, and is insistent, it's better to just drop her, and to walk away with your secrets, than to be berated into surrendering to the Cassandra Syndrome.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.