"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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GymMaxxing is now called bigorexia

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Everybody is always looking for a reason to tell people:

"You shouldn't be doing that!"

Flexorexia

Karenorexia

Fingerpointorexia

can'tmindmyownbusinessorexia

mylifesuckssoIcoveritupbycritizingotherpeopleorexia
It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.

It goes like this:

normal guy, lifts weights to attract women -> starts improving and seeks like-minded men -> spends all of his time thinking about male physique and talking to other men about the male physique and neglects everything else in his life -> develops deeply pathological body dysmorphia and massively inflated ego, and is now gay

Mac from Always Sunny is actually a great example of what I'm describing.
 
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It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.
 

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It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.

It goes like this:

normal guy, lifts weights to attract women -> starts improving and seeks like-minded men -> spends all of his time thinking about male physique and talking to other men about the male physique and neglects everything else in his life -> develops deeply pathological body dysmorphia and massively inflated ego, and is now gay

Mac from Always Sunny is actually a great example of what I'm describing.
And ..theyll oftentimes ends up with a misogynistic mindset.

The gymmaxxx is great because the gym does teach us a lot about ourselves. But there is a catch: if you do it just to get women it's disheartening to learn that it's NOT a guaranteed path to p00sy. Nor is having money.

Gymmaxxx by now is actually a zero sum game. The women you do want are desensitised, like how men are desensitised due to pron. They've ( women) seen it all done it all.

So yeah, bigorexia does makes sense to me.

One more thing: I've mentioned before that with the hard times that are luring at us it's kinda irresponsible to NOT work your azz off. So a man who is in the gym 7 times a week 4 hours a day perhaps doesn't have his priorities straight. You might as well "put those fries in the bag" an hour per day and it's still gonna be more beneficial than not making an extra buck( unless you're financially sound)
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yes there can be extremes. generally gym is good for men. do stay away from the tren and other strong stuff. many can/will interpret this thread idea that maybe gym is bad so should not do it.

yes lots men do gym. far more don't....

some men don't need it. they are naturals. lucky them. for me its required.

nothing overcomes stupid, not gym, not money, not game.
 

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yes there can be extremes. generally gym is good for men. do stay away from the tren and other strong stuff. many can/will interpret this thread idea that maybe gym is bad so should not do it.

yes lots men do gym. far more don't....

some men don't need it. they are naturals. lucky them. for me its required.

nothing overcomes stupid, not gym, not money, not game.
if you look physically masculine, you don’t need gym. If you don’t, then you need gym.
 

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This is pretty simple, the weaker men are the less likely they will do something about being ruled by cannibalistic, satanic pedos.
 

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Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.
RABBIT?!?!? :eek: lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If this particular fad is what's going to lead us out of this celebration of The Soft Boy aesthetic, let's salute it. Same way the advent of 'roided out he-men like Arnie and Stallone in The 80s, juvenile as it was, dropkicked the era of Alan Alda-esque sensitive men back into The 1970s

Sometimes, we have bust down doors with pickaxes in order to get ourselves out of a building that's burning to it's foundation
 

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No it's not.

Becoming obsessive that you "aren't big enough" and constantly checking yourself out in the mirror, etc is called that.
 

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Gym maxing is completely useless if you have a low self image and think muscles will change your innate insecurities. Even if you get opportunities, your insecurities will fvck it up somehow.

The “self” is always coming through. Whoever you are on the inside will always rear its ugly head.

You can’t fool women and their millions of years of biology by signing up for planet fitness and lifting a dumb bell.
 
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Gym maxing is completely useless if you have a low self image and think muscles will be change your innate insecurities. Even if you get opportunities, your insecurities will fvck it up somehow.

The “self” is always coming through. Whoever you are on the inside will always rear its ugly head.

You can’t fool women and their millions of years of biology by signing up for planet fitness and lifting a dumb bell.
Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointed
 

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Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointed
The “frame” someone is coming from determines his entire reality.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Notice how nobody worries about your mental or physical health when you let yourself go, eat crap and avoid sports yet everyone is concerned once you show discipline and accept sacrifices for long term goals.
 
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