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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.Everybody is always looking for a reason to tell people:
"You shouldn't be doing that!"
Flexorexia
Karenorexia
Fingerpointorexia
can'tmindmyownbusinessorexia
mylifesuckssoIcoveritupbycritizingotherpeopleorexia
Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
And ..theyll oftentimes ends up with a misogynistic mindset.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
It goes like this:
normal guy, lifts weights to attract women -> starts improving and seeks like-minded men -> spends all of his time thinking about male physique and talking to other men about the male physique and neglects everything else in his life -> develops deeply pathological body dysmorphia and massively inflated ego, and is now gay
Mac from Always Sunny is actually a great example of what I'm describing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
if you look physically masculine, you don’t need gym. If you don’t, then you need gym.yes there can be extremes. generally gym is good for men. do stay away from the tren and other strong stuff. many can/will interpret this thread idea that maybe gym is bad so should not do it.
yes lots men do gym. far more don't....
some men don't need it. they are naturals. lucky them. for me its required.
nothing overcomes stupid, not gym, not money, not game.
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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.health.yahoo.com
RABBIT?!?!?Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointedGym maxing is completely useless if you have a low self image and think muscles will be change your innate insecurities. Even if you get opportunities, your insecurities will fvck it up somehow.
The “self” is always coming through. Whoever you are on the inside will always rear its ugly head.
You can’t fool women and their millions of years of biology by signing up for planet fitness and lifting a dumb bell.
The “frame” someone is coming from determines his entire reality.Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointed
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.