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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.Everybody is always looking for a reason to tell people:
"You shouldn't be doing that!"
Flexorexia
Karenorexia
Fingerpointorexia
can'tmindmyownbusinessorexia
mylifesuckssoIcoveritupbycritizingotherpeopleorexia
Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
And ..theyll oftentimes ends up with a misogynistic mindset.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
It goes like this:
normal guy, lifts weights to attract women -> starts improving and seeks like-minded men -> spends all of his time thinking about male physique and talking to other men about the male physique and neglects everything else in his life -> develops deeply pathological body dysmorphia and massively inflated ego, and is now gay
Mac from Always Sunny is actually a great example of what I'm describing.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if you look physically masculine, you don’t need gym. If you don’t, then you need gym.yes there can be extremes. generally gym is good for men. do stay away from the tren and other strong stuff. many can/will interpret this thread idea that maybe gym is bad so should not do it.
yes lots men do gym. far more don't....
some men don't need it. they are naturals. lucky them. for me its required.
nothing overcomes stupid, not gym, not money, not game.
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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.health.yahoo.com
RABBIT?!?!?Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointedGym maxing is completely useless if you have a low self image and think muscles will be change your innate insecurities. Even if you get opportunities, your insecurities will fvck it up somehow.
The “self” is always coming through. Whoever you are on the inside will always rear its ugly head.
You can’t fool women and their millions of years of biology by signing up for planet fitness and lifting a dumb bell.
The “frame” someone is coming from determines his entire reality.Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointed
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.