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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.Everybody is always looking for a reason to tell people:
"You shouldn't be doing that!"
Flexorexia
Karenorexia
Fingerpointorexia
can'tmindmyownbusinessorexia
mylifesuckssoIcoveritupbycritizingotherpeopleorexia
Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
And ..theyll oftentimes ends up with a misogynistic mindset.It's actually a very real and serious problem. Men have seen so many influencers and gym bros on gear for so long that they've completely lost touch with what a healthy and fit male physique looks like and what's actually important in life.
It goes like this:
normal guy, lifts weights to attract women -> starts improving and seeks like-minded men -> spends all of his time thinking about male physique and talking to other men about the male physique and neglects everything else in his life -> develops deeply pathological body dysmorphia and massively inflated ego, and is now gay
Mac from Always Sunny is actually a great example of what I'm describing.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
if you look physically masculine, you don’t need gym. If you don’t, then you need gym.yes there can be extremes. generally gym is good for men. do stay away from the tren and other strong stuff. many can/will interpret this thread idea that maybe gym is bad so should not do it.
yes lots men do gym. far more don't....
some men don't need it. they are naturals. lucky them. for me its required.
nothing overcomes stupid, not gym, not money, not game.
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'Bigorexia' Is On The Rise. Here's What Parents Should Know.
Although it can affect anyone, this lesser-known disorder commonly affects boys and young men.health.yahoo.com
RABBIT?!?!?Yeah, I can see how this would spiral out of control, particularly with the combination of the dating dumpster fire and the self-reinforcing rabbit hole that social media provides.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointedGym maxing is completely useless if you have a low self image and think muscles will be change your innate insecurities. Even if you get opportunities, your insecurities will fvck it up somehow.
The “self” is always coming through. Whoever you are on the inside will always rear its ugly head.
You can’t fool women and their millions of years of biology by signing up for planet fitness and lifting a dumb bell.
The “frame” someone is coming from determines his entire reality.Yeah, if one is "just lifting" primarily for someone else's approval, and not because he's devoted to looking after his health, he'll inevitably end up disappointed
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.