no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
That's why it doesn't work.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well not really. You cant tell a girl "what you think of them" before you get to know them. Unless your being straight up about her "looks" ie flattery and complemts off the bat.no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.
D!ck Ramsey said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Guitar_Whizz said:Looks are not the problem, but anyway here is me:-
www.faceparty.com/neil_the_rocker
I'm going to delete that link shortly because this is a public forum!!
That's what some of us are saying being Direct gives you no leverage and all you have to work with is your looks.direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent
This is absolute f*cking bull****!Real said:I am sitting at work, reading this BULLSHYT, and NOT A SINGLE PERSON MENTIONS THE OBVIOUS!!! I had to join just to say this (though i look forward to contributing further)
GuitarWizz, you are ugly and creepy looking
direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent - aka I cannot picture a beautiful lady being attracted to you
you have weird long hair, you are skinny as hell, and you really look like you don't try to look good AT ALL
before you think about going for girls, you should first go to the gym and work on your style, because it is literally DISGUSTING
and yea, good job all you guys who replied, you didn't even tell GuitarWhizz the OBVIOUS reason why he has no success!
no hot girl wants to talk to a guy who looks like him, whether direct or indirect!
Whizz, get your azz some better looks (its very easy, gym, haircut, clothes, and you will look much much better)
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Guitar_Whizz said:This is absolute f*cking bull****!
Many PUAs I've sarged with have said they wish they were as good looking as me.
I also regularly get complimented on my looks and style by girls.
Seriously, it's not my looks that are the issue.
It's my inner game. I have a ton of work to do on my inner game when it comes to direct. Anyway, I'm not massively keen on direct as a whole (it's not very classy to say the least).
Thanks for the replies, it's been an interesting discussion. I don't think ultimately direct game will be the bulk of my main sarging routine, I'm going to stick to natural game.
I went into town today to do some direct day game and then later meet up for a drink with my friend.zerocelcius said:Direct Sucks:rockon:
The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.Mad Manic said:...EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to brag or anything with this post, I should add I did direct day game the other day, did 10 direct approaches, but got no numbers despite good interactions. Things go like that sometimes.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lol, funny you should say that. When I got numbers off the 8 and 9 on my first 2 approaches I was like "woooo I wanna go for 5/5, that's what Style and Mystery claim!Francisco d'Anconia said:The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.