no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
That's why it doesn't work.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well not really. You cant tell a girl "what you think of them" before you get to know them. Unless your being straight up about her "looks" ie flattery and complemts off the bat.no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.
D!ck Ramsey said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Guitar_Whizz said:Looks are not the problem, but anyway here is me:-
www.faceparty.com/neil_the_rocker
I'm going to delete that link shortly because this is a public forum!!
That's what some of us are saying being Direct gives you no leverage and all you have to work with is your looks.direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent
This is absolute f*cking bull****!Real said:I am sitting at work, reading this BULLSHYT, and NOT A SINGLE PERSON MENTIONS THE OBVIOUS!!! I had to join just to say this (though i look forward to contributing further)
GuitarWizz, you are ugly and creepy looking
direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent - aka I cannot picture a beautiful lady being attracted to you
you have weird long hair, you are skinny as hell, and you really look like you don't try to look good AT ALL
before you think about going for girls, you should first go to the gym and work on your style, because it is literally DISGUSTING
and yea, good job all you guys who replied, you didn't even tell GuitarWhizz the OBVIOUS reason why he has no success!
no hot girl wants to talk to a guy who looks like him, whether direct or indirect!
Whizz, get your azz some better looks (its very easy, gym, haircut, clothes, and you will look much much better)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Guitar_Whizz said:This is absolute f*cking bull****!
Many PUAs I've sarged with have said they wish they were as good looking as me.
I also regularly get complimented on my looks and style by girls.
Seriously, it's not my looks that are the issue.
It's my inner game. I have a ton of work to do on my inner game when it comes to direct. Anyway, I'm not massively keen on direct as a whole (it's not very classy to say the least).
Thanks for the replies, it's been an interesting discussion. I don't think ultimately direct game will be the bulk of my main sarging routine, I'm going to stick to natural game.
I went into town today to do some direct day game and then later meet up for a drink with my friend.zerocelcius said:Direct Sucks:rockon:
The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.Mad Manic said:...EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to brag or anything with this post, I should add I did direct day game the other day, did 10 direct approaches, but got no numbers despite good interactions. Things go like that sometimes.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lol, funny you should say that. When I got numbers off the 8 and 9 on my first 2 approaches I was like "woooo I wanna go for 5/5, that's what Style and Mystery claim!Francisco d'Anconia said:The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.