no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
That's why it doesn't work.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well not really. You cant tell a girl "what you think of them" before you get to know them. Unless your being straight up about her "looks" ie flattery and complemts off the bat.no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.
D!ck Ramsey said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Guitar_Whizz said:Looks are not the problem, but anyway here is me:-
www.faceparty.com/neil_the_rocker
I'm going to delete that link shortly because this is a public forum!!
That's what some of us are saying being Direct gives you no leverage and all you have to work with is your looks.direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent
This is absolute f*cking bull****!Real said:I am sitting at work, reading this BULLSHYT, and NOT A SINGLE PERSON MENTIONS THE OBVIOUS!!! I had to join just to say this (though i look forward to contributing further)
GuitarWizz, you are ugly and creepy looking
direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent - aka I cannot picture a beautiful lady being attracted to you
you have weird long hair, you are skinny as hell, and you really look like you don't try to look good AT ALL
before you think about going for girls, you should first go to the gym and work on your style, because it is literally DISGUSTING
and yea, good job all you guys who replied, you didn't even tell GuitarWhizz the OBVIOUS reason why he has no success!
no hot girl wants to talk to a guy who looks like him, whether direct or indirect!
Whizz, get your azz some better looks (its very easy, gym, haircut, clothes, and you will look much much better)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Guitar_Whizz said:This is absolute f*cking bull****!
Many PUAs I've sarged with have said they wish they were as good looking as me.
I also regularly get complimented on my looks and style by girls.
Seriously, it's not my looks that are the issue.
It's my inner game. I have a ton of work to do on my inner game when it comes to direct. Anyway, I'm not massively keen on direct as a whole (it's not very classy to say the least).
Thanks for the replies, it's been an interesting discussion. I don't think ultimately direct game will be the bulk of my main sarging routine, I'm going to stick to natural game.
I went into town today to do some direct day game and then later meet up for a drink with my friend.zerocelcius said:Direct Sucks:rockon:
The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.Mad Manic said:...EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to brag or anything with this post, I should add I did direct day game the other day, did 10 direct approaches, but got no numbers despite good interactions. Things go like that sometimes.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Lol, funny you should say that. When I got numbers off the 8 and 9 on my first 2 approaches I was like "woooo I wanna go for 5/5, that's what Style and Mystery claim!Francisco d'Anconia said:The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.