no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
That's why it doesn't work.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.sexybeast said:You lot give me jokes.
Question: Do you guys think direct behavior is based on complementing and flattering the girl?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well not really. You cant tell a girl "what you think of them" before you get to know them. Unless your being straight up about her "looks" ie flattery and complemts off the bat.no, it's about telling them straight up what you think of them without any bs.
D!ck Ramsey said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Guitar_Whizz said:Looks are not the problem, but anyway here is me:-
www.faceparty.com/neil_the_rocker
I'm going to delete that link shortly because this is a public forum!!
That's what some of us are saying being Direct gives you no leverage and all you have to work with is your looks.direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent
This is absolute f*cking bull****!Real said:I am sitting at work, reading this BULLSHYT, and NOT A SINGLE PERSON MENTIONS THE OBVIOUS!!! I had to join just to say this (though i look forward to contributing further)
GuitarWizz, you are ugly and creepy looking
direct approach, let alone cold approach, only works for guys who look at the very least decent - aka I cannot picture a beautiful lady being attracted to you
you have weird long hair, you are skinny as hell, and you really look like you don't try to look good AT ALL
before you think about going for girls, you should first go to the gym and work on your style, because it is literally DISGUSTING
and yea, good job all you guys who replied, you didn't even tell GuitarWhizz the OBVIOUS reason why he has no success!
no hot girl wants to talk to a guy who looks like him, whether direct or indirect!
Whizz, get your azz some better looks (its very easy, gym, haircut, clothes, and you will look much much better)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Guitar_Whizz said:This is absolute f*cking bull****!
Many PUAs I've sarged with have said they wish they were as good looking as me.
I also regularly get complimented on my looks and style by girls.
Seriously, it's not my looks that are the issue.
It's my inner game. I have a ton of work to do on my inner game when it comes to direct. Anyway, I'm not massively keen on direct as a whole (it's not very classy to say the least).
Thanks for the replies, it's been an interesting discussion. I don't think ultimately direct game will be the bulk of my main sarging routine, I'm going to stick to natural game.
I went into town today to do some direct day game and then later meet up for a drink with my friend.zerocelcius said:Direct Sucks:rockon:
The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.Mad Manic said:...EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to brag or anything with this post, I should add I did direct day game the other day, did 10 direct approaches, but got no numbers despite good interactions. Things go like that sometimes.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lol, funny you should say that. When I got numbers off the 8 and 9 on my first 2 approaches I was like "woooo I wanna go for 5/5, that's what Style and Mystery claim!Francisco d'Anconia said:The belief is that if it doesn't work 100% of the time it isn't viable.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.