"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Did your wife/ex-wife change after kids?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.
You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?
Did he get better after you two were done?
lol, no, I don't believe in letting mental health issues take over your life and your partner's life. it's an excuse for bad behavior. it's a crutch at a certain point. it's an excuse to treat those around you badly while not being held to any standards because you've got a "mental health issue".
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She knows what you meant.
speed dawg
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No, I don't believe in mental health issues because I don't believe in excuses. I believe that you write your own check.
And let's be real. You left your ex because he longer got your crotch wet. Not because of mental health issues.
If you want to be clinical, I have a ton of mental health issues. I still can't treat people like crap. You know what I do? I make a drink every now and again, I get the f*ck up and I go to f*cking work.
It's that simple. Stop automatically making excuses for women and people would listen to you more around here. You aren't dumb, but you just can't seem to shake that girl code BS.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Playing dumb is a great tool for infuriating those around you. I've employed it in the military to quite a successful outcome. Women do it in relationships literally every day. You know that miracle on 34th street quote, everytime a bell rings an angel gets their wings. Here's the modern version, everytime a female plays dumb, a man loses his mind. lol
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Oh that’s gold. Haha haha
She’s far, far from dumb.
but playing dumb is a real skill, you can really only do it successfully if you're smart.
Now this is a bitter pill to swallow for plenty of women.
The red pill truth is not for everyone.
speed dawg
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Yea but dont make these females to be einsteins. They are good at what they do.
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This is @Ranger trying to manipulate you @highSpeed .
Im onboard with your mindset @highSpeed. If only it were that easy for ppl to take FULL accountability for their lives. It's frustrating to watch a depressed person spin in their own misery. I tell you, I HAVE tried to shake them out of "it", tell them way I see, encourage them to get help. I've never been successful. Drives me crazy.
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Lol it's jump on sazc day, huh?
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You'll post anything that serves your narrative
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Please cite your source and provide a link to the experiment white paper.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Lol there’s tons of them. Anyone who doesn’t think that being around insanity doesn’t cause insanity is really stupid.
Why do they say “get better friends”
You can start with D L Rosenhan. There’s tons of catching up you will need to do.
Hers’s also a good one to show the pseudoscience of psychiatry. Lol
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wa...c9c3ea-d5f7-11e7-b62d-d9345ced896d_story.html
I won’t educate you. These experiments started in the 1930’s. Time to catch up to the real world sazc.
Our present society actually has a propensity to generate insanity and destructive tendensies.
You are in that society. Have you ever heard of the stockhold syndrome? Have you ever actually studied human beings?
These are survival mechanisms. They are used against people in this western world.
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Lol it's "stockholm syndrome"
These types of things are exactly why you and your rhetoric have ZERO credibility with me. You spout and spout and spout as if you are some sort of expert in everything, and then turn around and dribble on about conspiracy theory, and are waiting for the government to declare martial law, while you spell typical words incorrectly and then try to ask me about "stockhold syndrome" simultaneously claiming that you are an engineer.
Sh1t doesnt add up about you.
Have I studied people? Yes. I am a conspiracy theorist? No. Do I think you are some type of special snowflake? Hell yes.
Stay on your acreage, please
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Oh please. Lol.
So you’re not going to read the article or study anything? Another nice try.
“Anyone who has never doubted their sanity at different points in their life, truly is insane.”
So how many psychotropics are you on? You’re seeing a whole team of shrinks aren’t you?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.