Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.Assumptions and projections yet again, eh?
It wasn't my mental health, it was my ex's mental health, specifically depression, rooted in his childhood. I did everything I knew to do but, ultimately the depressed person, themselves, have to recognize their illness and want to get help for themselves. You can lead a horse to water... As a partner you can only do 'so much', and that is if you even realize the other person has a mental illness.
You've confirmed what I said before. You base your rhetoric off of assumptions and projections instead of actually attempting to engage in mature conversation.
Have fun with that approach in life.
lol, no, I don't believe in letting mental health issues take over your life and your partner's life. it's an excuse for bad behavior. it's a crutch at a certain point. it's an excuse to treat those around you badly while not being held to any standards because you've got a "mental health issue".So you've decided that you don't believe in mental health issues BECAUSE it doesn't suit/support your narrative?
That's absolutely insane!
No, I don't believe in mental health issues because I don't believe in excuses. I believe that you write your own check.So you've decided that you don't believe in mental health issues BECAUSE it doesn't suit/support your narrative?
That's absolutely insane!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Playing dumb is a great tool for infuriating those around you. I've employed it in the military to quite a successful outcome. Women do it in relationships literally every day. You know that miracle on 34th street quote, everytime a bell rings an angel gets their wings. Here's the modern version, everytime a female plays dumb, a man loses his mind. lolShe was gaslighting you @highSpeed
She knows what you meant.
Oh that’s gold. Haha hahaHere's the modern version, everytime a female plays dumb, a man loses his mind. lol
but playing dumb is a real skill, you can really only do it successfully if you're smart.Oh that’s gold. Haha haha
She’s far, far from dumb.
Now this is a bitter pill to swallow for plenty of women.There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.
You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?
Did he get better after you two were done?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yea but dont make these females to be einsteins. They are good at what they do.but playing dumb is a real skill, you can really only do it successfully if you're smart.
This is @Ranger trying to manipulate you @highSpeed .She was gaslighting you @highSpeed
She knows what you meant.
Lol it's jump on sazc day, huh?I just noticed that sacz basically is advertising for Plan B in her sig. WTF is that about?
You'll post anything that serves your narrativeNo, I don't believe in mental health issues because I don't believe in excuses. I believe that you write your own check.
And let's be real. You left your ex because he longer got your crotch wet. Not because of mental health issues.
If you want to be clinical, I have a ton of mental health issues. I still can't treat people like crap. You know what I do? I make a drink every now and again, I get the f*ck up and I go to f*cking work.
It's that simple. Stop automatically making excuses for women and people would listen to you more around here. You aren't dumb, but you just can't seem to shake that girl code BS.
Please cite your source and provide a link to the experiment white paper.There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.
You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?
Did he get better after you two were done?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lol there’s tons of them. Anyone who doesn’t think that being around insanity doesn’t cause insanity is really stupid.Please cite your source and provide a link to the experiment white paper.
Lol it's "stockholm syndrome"Lol there’s tons of them. Anyone who doesn’t think that being around insanity doesn’t cause insanity is really stupid.
Why do they say “get better friends”
You can start with D L Rosenhan. There’s tons of catching up you will need to do.
Hers’s also a good one to show the pseudoscience of psychiatry. Lol
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wa...c9c3ea-d5f7-11e7-b62d-d9345ced896d_story.html
I won’t educate you. These experiments started in the 1930’s. Time to catch up to the real world sazc.
Our present society actually has a propensity to generate insanity and destructive tendensies.
You are in that society. Have you ever heard of the stockhold syndrome? Have you ever actually studied human beings?
These are survival mechanisms. They are used against people in this western world.
Oh please. Lol.Lol it's "stockholm syndrome"
These types of things are exactly why you and your rhetoric have ZERO credibility with me. You spout and spout and spout as if you are some sort of expert in everything, and then turn around and dribble on about conspiracy theory, and are waiting for the government to declare martial law, while you spell typical words incorrectly and then try to ask me about "stockhold syndrome" and claim you are an engineer.
Sh1t didn't add up about you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.