"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Did your wife/ex-wife change after kids?

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So you've decided that you don't believe in mental health issues BECAUSE it doesn't suit/support your narrative?

That's absolutely insane!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Assumptions and projections yet again, eh?

It wasn't my mental health, it was my ex's mental health, specifically depression, rooted in his childhood. I did everything I knew to do but, ultimately the depressed person, themselves, have to recognize their illness and want to get help for themselves. You can lead a horse to water... As a partner you can only do 'so much', and that is if you even realize the other person has a mental illness.

You've confirmed what I said before. You base your rhetoric off of assumptions and projections instead of actually attempting to engage in mature conversation.

Have fun with that approach in life.
There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.

You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?

Did he get better after you two were done?
 

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So you've decided that you don't believe in mental health issues BECAUSE it doesn't suit/support your narrative?

That's absolutely insane!
lol, no, I don't believe in letting mental health issues take over your life and your partner's life. it's an excuse for bad behavior. it's a crutch at a certain point. it's an excuse to treat those around you badly while not being held to any standards because you've got a "mental health issue".
 

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So you've decided that you don't believe in mental health issues BECAUSE it doesn't suit/support your narrative?

That's absolutely insane!
No, I don't believe in mental health issues because I don't believe in excuses. I believe that you write your own check.

And let's be real. You left your ex because he longer got your crotch wet. Not because of mental health issues.

If you want to be clinical, I have a ton of mental health issues. I still can't treat people like crap. You know what I do? I make a drink every now and again, I get the f*ck up and I go to f*cking work.

It's that simple. Stop automatically making excuses for women and people would listen to you more around here. You aren't dumb, but you just can't seem to shake that girl code BS.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She was gaslighting you @highSpeed
She knows what you meant.
Playing dumb is a great tool for infuriating those around you. I've employed it in the military to quite a successful outcome. Women do it in relationships literally every day. You know that miracle on 34th street quote, everytime a bell rings an angel gets their wings. Here's the modern version, everytime a female plays dumb, a man loses his mind. lol
 

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There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.

You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?

Did he get better after you two were done?
Now this is a bitter pill to swallow for plenty of women.

The red pill truth is not for everyone.
 

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I just noticed that sacz basically is advertising for Plan B in her sig. WTF is that about?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She was gaslighting you @highSpeed
She knows what you meant.
This is @Ranger trying to manipulate you @highSpeed .

Im onboard with your mindset @highSpeed. If only it were that easy for ppl to take FULL accountability for their lives. It's frustrating to watch a depressed person spin in their own misery. I tell you, I HAVE tried to shake them out of "it", tell them way I see, encourage them to get help. I've never been successful. Drives me crazy.
 

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No, I don't believe in mental health issues because I don't believe in excuses. I believe that you write your own check.

And let's be real. You left your ex because he longer got your crotch wet. Not because of mental health issues.

If you want to be clinical, I have a ton of mental health issues. I still can't treat people like crap. You know what I do? I make a drink every now and again, I get the f*ck up and I go to f*cking work.

It's that simple. Stop automatically making excuses for women and people would listen to you more around here. You aren't dumb, but you just can't seem to shake that girl code BS.
You'll post anything that serves your narrative
 

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There was an interesting experiment that’s been proven many times over.

You can take a sane man and put him in an insane environment and he will become insane.
The reverse is also true to a large extent. You can take an insane man and put him in a calm environment and he gets better. He becomes more sane.
Can you speak for his environment? You were there right?

Did he get better after you two were done?
Please cite your source and provide a link to the experiment white paper.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Please cite your source and provide a link to the experiment white paper.
Lol there’s tons of them. Anyone who doesn’t think that being around insanity doesn’t cause insanity is really stupid.
Why do they say “get better friends”
You can start with D L Rosenhan. There’s tons of catching up you will need to do.

Hers’s also a good one to show the pseudoscience of psychiatry. Lol

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wa...c9c3ea-d5f7-11e7-b62d-d9345ced896d_story.html

I won’t educate you. These experiments started in the 1930’s. Time to catch up to the real world sazc.

Our present society actually has a propensity to generate insanity and destructive tendensies.
You are in that society. Have you ever heard of the stockhold syndrome? Have you ever actually studied human beings?
These are survival mechanisms. They are used against people in this western world.
 

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Lol there’s tons of them. Anyone who doesn’t think that being around insanity doesn’t cause insanity is really stupid.
Why do they say “get better friends”
You can start with D L Rosenhan. There’s tons of catching up you will need to do.

Hers’s also a good one to show the pseudoscience of psychiatry. Lol

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wa...c9c3ea-d5f7-11e7-b62d-d9345ced896d_story.html

I won’t educate you. These experiments started in the 1930’s. Time to catch up to the real world sazc.

Our present society actually has a propensity to generate insanity and destructive tendensies.
You are in that society. Have you ever heard of the stockhold syndrome? Have you ever actually studied human beings?
These are survival mechanisms. They are used against people in this western world.
Lol it's "stockholm syndrome"

These types of things are exactly why you and your rhetoric have ZERO credibility with me. You spout and spout and spout as if you are some sort of expert in everything, and then turn around and dribble on about conspiracy theory, and are waiting for the government to declare martial law, while you spell typical words incorrectly and then try to ask me about "stockhold syndrome" simultaneously claiming that you are an engineer.

Sh1t doesnt add up about you.

Have I studied people? Yes. I am a conspiracy theorist? No. Do I think you are some type of special snowflake? Hell yes.

Stay on your acreage, please
 

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#rediculous
 
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Lol it's "stockholm syndrome"

These types of things are exactly why you and your rhetoric have ZERO credibility with me. You spout and spout and spout as if you are some sort of expert in everything, and then turn around and dribble on about conspiracy theory, and are waiting for the government to declare martial law, while you spell typical words incorrectly and then try to ask me about "stockhold syndrome" and claim you are an engineer.

Sh1t didn't add up about you.
Oh please. Lol.

So you’re not going to read the article or study anything? Another nice try.

“Anyone who has never doubted their sanity at different points in their life, truly is insane.”

So how many psychotropics are you on? You’re seeing a whole team of shrinks aren’t you?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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