Look, I've threatened and my wife has said go ahead. However, that's only until I actually do it. Then, when she finds out, she's going to feed me my f*cking lunch in the courts. It's like a go ahead and do it, I dare you type of thing. She says it but never intends for me to actually do it, she's calling my bluff. Yes, I know, it shouldn't be a bluff but the courts don't look kindly on the guy going out and getting some on the side in a family situation. Women, who the f*ck cares as the family courts would see it but the guy, he'd better toe her line. It's so messed up, believe me, I've been through it once.we need to take matters into our own hands. A wife that doesnt put out is no longer your wife.