"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Destroy your fapping and porn addiction.

MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
There are a lot of information discussing masturbation in this forum.

BUT this is not a ****ing discussion this is a CHALLENGE for those of us that are at home in quarentine during the virus situation and for one reason or another have returned to watch porn and fap like brainless monkeys.

QUICK BACKGROUND info:

In my other thread: How to get from 20 years old virgin to successful DonJuan?
Where I explain my development towards that goal.

The GOAL in this thread: DESTROY OUR FAPPING AND PORN ADDICTION.

In order to achieve that, I challenge all of you and myself to post in this thread every single day at 21:00h (whenever that is in your time zone).
The format will be:

No fap goal in days:
Achieved days:
Max strike:
Something you did instead of fapping: (e.g. workout, take photos, write articles, read books, play instrument, do homework, do chores etc)

If you want you can post that here too.

Well there you have it. If any of you such as @EyeOnThePrize that has written about no fapping in the past,
have any ideas or suggestions they are more than welcomed!

Take care,
MessedUpLearner.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

corrector

corrector

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 12, 2009
Messages
10,398
Reaction score
4,068
As most of the fapping is done overnight when there is trouble sleeping and this actually helps me fall asleep quickly. The virus anxiety and news feed about this virus is probably contributing to feeling a bit more anxious than usual in the bed. Allot of drastic changes have been occurring locally that are simply very jarring and this seems to work to do the job and cause sleep. Why apologize for being single?
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 0
Max strike: 0
Something you did instead of fapping: Dance bachata
 
EyeOnThePrize

EyeOnThePrize

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2019
Messages
1,168
Reaction score
1,934
Age
36
@MessedUpLearner every day seems a bit much, at least for me personally. I have an ongoing thread that I update once a month(I'm running a little late for the latest update). Once a day is great for someone with a chronic issue, but it's important not to fixate on it. The hole cessation leaves behind is meant to be filled with other more wholesome activities. That's where the focus should be. Ideally you're too involved with other things to even think about it.

corrector said:
As most of the fapping is done overnight when there is trouble sleeping and this actually helps me fall asleep quickly. The virus anxiety and news feed about this virus is probably contributing to feeling a bit more anxious than usual in the bed. Allot of drastic changes have been occurring locally that are simply very jarring and this seems to work to do the job and cause sleep. Why apologize for being single?
Click to expand...
You're using it to cope, and if you've used it to help fall asleep for any length of time you'll have terrible insomnia when you attempt nofap. If you can, attempt to stagger the nights you use it as a sleep inducer. Your body has most likely adapted to your habit and regulates less sleep inducing hormones naturally as a result. It'll take time for it to adapt back to a healthy state, if you try quitting that is.
 
corrector

corrector

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 12, 2009
Messages
10,398
Reaction score
4,068
EyeOnThePrize said:
@MessedUpLearner every day seems a bit much, at least for me personally. I have an ongoing thread that I update once a month(I'm running a little late for the latest update). Once a day is great for someone with a chronic issue, but it's important not to fixate on it. The hole cessation leaves behind is meant to be filled with other more wholesome activities. That's where the focus should be. Ideally you're too involved with other things to even think about it.



You're using it to cope, and if you've used it to help fall asleep for any length of time you'll have terrible insomnia when you attempt nofap. If you can, attempt to stagger the nights you use it as a sleep inducer. Your body has most likely adapted to your habit and regulates less sleep inducing hormones naturally as a result. It'll take time for it to adapt back to a healthy state, if you try quitting that is.
Click to expand...
It is normally a last resort to fall asleep if I pasd 4 am or something. Allot of staggering goes on but I dont intend not to sleep at all.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 1
Max strike: 1
Something you did instead of fapping: Recorded a sunset video
 
RickTheToad

RickTheToad

Moderator
Joined
Apr 21, 2018
Messages
6,603
Reaction score
5,138
Location
Bridgeport, CT
MessedUpLearner said:
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 1
Max strike: 1
Something you did instead of fapping: Recorded a sunset video
Click to expand...
Instead of doing the knuckle shuffle on your piss pump, there are these creatures called females. They have three pleasure holes. Mouth, Vagina, and Anus. Find one of these creatures, chat them up, build a report, and utilize one or more of these fun features.. Just use protection. You may find it much more satisifing than this no fap bullsh it.
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 2
Max strike: 2
Something you did instead of fapping: Workout
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
@mrgoodstuff @RickTheToad
I know guys, the virus situation has everyone of us isolated so until then gotta do other things.
Both of you made me laugh tho XD thanks for that
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 3
Max strike: 3
Something you did instead of fapping: Pull ups & photos
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 4
Max strike: 4
Something you did instead of fapping: Learned new programming skills
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 5
Max strike: 5
Something you did instead of fapping: Practised python
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 6
Max strike: 6
Something you did instead of fapping: Played chess
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 7
Max strike: 7
Something you did instead of fapping: Danced bachata
 
MessedUpLearner

MessedUpLearner

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2019
Messages
48
Reaction score
32
Age
27
Location
Spain
No fap goal in days: 90
Achieved days: 8
Max strike: 8
Something you did instead of fapping: Worked out
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top