"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There are a lot of information discussing masturbation in this forum.

BUT this is not a ****ing discussion this is a CHALLENGE for those of us that are at home in quarentine during the virus situation and for one reason or another have returned to watch porn and fap like brainless monkeys.

QUICK BACKGROUND info:

In my other thread: How to get from 20 years old virgin to successful DonJuan?
Where I explain my development towards that goal.

The GOAL in this thread: DESTROY OUR FAPPING AND PORN ADDICTION.

In order to achieve that, I challenge all of you and myself to post in this thread every single day at 21:00h (whenever that is in your time zone).
The format will be:

No fap goal in days:
Achieved days:
Max strike:
Something you did instead of fapping:
(e.g. workout, take photos, write articles, read books, play instrument, do homework, do chores etc)

If you want you can post that here too.

Well there you have it. If any of you such as @EyeOnThePrize that has written about no fapping in the past,
have any ideas or suggestions they are more than welcomed!

Take care,
MessedUpLearner.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As most of the fapping is done overnight when there is trouble sleeping and this actually helps me fall asleep quickly. The virus anxiety and news feed about this virus is probably contributing to feeling a bit more anxious than usual in the bed. Allot of drastic changes have been occurring locally that are simply very jarring and this seems to work to do the job and cause sleep. Why apologize for being single?
 

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Something you did instead of fapping: Dance bachata
 

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@MessedUpLearner every day seems a bit much, at least for me personally. I have an ongoing thread that I update once a month(I'm running a little late for the latest update). Once a day is great for someone with a chronic issue, but it's important not to fixate on it. The hole cessation leaves behind is meant to be filled with other more wholesome activities. That's where the focus should be. Ideally you're too involved with other things to even think about it.

As most of the fapping is done overnight when there is trouble sleeping and this actually helps me fall asleep quickly. The virus anxiety and news feed about this virus is probably contributing to feeling a bit more anxious than usual in the bed. Allot of drastic changes have been occurring locally that are simply very jarring and this seems to work to do the job and cause sleep. Why apologize for being single?
You're using it to cope, and if you've used it to help fall asleep for any length of time you'll have terrible insomnia when you attempt nofap. If you can, attempt to stagger the nights you use it as a sleep inducer. Your body has most likely adapted to your habit and regulates less sleep inducing hormones naturally as a result. It'll take time for it to adapt back to a healthy state, if you try quitting that is.
 

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@MessedUpLearner every day seems a bit much, at least for me personally. I have an ongoing thread that I update once a month(I'm running a little late for the latest update). Once a day is great for someone with a chronic issue, but it's important not to fixate on it. The hole cessation leaves behind is meant to be filled with other more wholesome activities. That's where the focus should be. Ideally you're too involved with other things to even think about it.



You're using it to cope, and if you've used it to help fall asleep for any length of time you'll have terrible insomnia when you attempt nofap. If you can, attempt to stagger the nights you use it as a sleep inducer. Your body has most likely adapted to your habit and regulates less sleep inducing hormones naturally as a result. It'll take time for it to adapt back to a healthy state, if you try quitting that is.
It is normally a last resort to fall asleep if I pasd 4 am or something. Allot of staggering goes on but I dont intend not to sleep at all.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Instead of doing the knuckle shuffle on your piss pump, there are these creatures called females. They have three pleasure holes. Mouth, Vagina, and Anus. Find one of these creatures, chat them up, build a report, and utilize one or more of these fun features.. Just use protection. You may find it much more satisifing than this no fap bullsh it.
 

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@mrgoodstuff @RickTheToad
I know guys, the virus situation has everyone of us isolated so until then gotta do other things.
Both of you made me laugh tho XD thanks for that
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Something you did instead of fapping: Pull ups & photos
 

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Something you did instead of fapping: Learned new programming skills
 

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Something you did instead of fapping: Practised python
 

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Something you did instead of fapping: Worked out
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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