Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Start with:Originally posted by wipz
Most of this stuff is great, but odds are that nobody will read all of these. There's just too much info for most people to read unless they have a few months on their hands to just read this, let alone get out. Hell I don't even remember seein half these threads. Can you make like an asterik, however its spelled, next to the must read ones... or highlight them or whatever. And I'm not talking about half the threads like in the original bible, I mean like 3-4 per category. The best of the best, like Fingers Mass Seduction or Pook's Be a Man.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Alright, I'll do something to make posts a "must-read."Originally posted by wipz
Most of this stuff is great, but odds are that nobody will read all of these. There's just too much info for most people to read unless they have a few months on their hands to just read this, let alone get out. Hell I don't even remember seein half these threads. Can you make like an asterik, however its spelled, next to the must read ones... or highlight them or whatever. And I'm not talking about half the threads like in the original bible, I mean like 3-4 per category. The best of the best, like Fingers Mass Seduction or Pook's Be a Man.
Fixed, thanks.Originally posted by Danny Zuko
Great work mate I appreciate the effort put into this. Dead link "Are you a guy who JUST CANT APPROACH? Part 2" never been able to read this post even in the old DJB really eager to give it a look!
Edit: Found the post here is the correct link http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=42638
Haha, thinking highly of your own post, eh?Originally posted by Dee-Zy
Start with:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30862
And you'll be way ahead of the game.
Pretty much covers all you need to know if you want a quick start.
btw, thx CK - I know my thread has been slept on for a long time but I was 100% sure it is first page Bible material.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Read the reply I posted earlier.Originally posted by dcfball
Any chance of getting a PDF format of the bible???
I'll consider the links you sent me.Originally posted by baseballDJ
edit. sent via PM to crazy
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.