You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The message is in the medium. She is telling you, you aren't listening.@Chi Town town I haven't caught her physically cheating. Just behavioral stuff and her deactivating her old facebook but keeping her messenger open, and blocking me on her new one.
I did the next best thing, the most vile and hated creature of every woman....a much younger woman.Bang her best friend
When was the last time you used?@mrgoodstuff @Ranger I had a crystal methamphetamine problem. I ended up using some with her.. now that stuff makes me really feminine and insecure about myself. But she reassured me I wasn't going to lose her and look what happened
Is this the same girl that you swore to us to leave her in your other thread? Man you really need to learn it the hard way then.Hey guys, ok so I just caught my girlfriend cheating. Fake facebook account which she has me blocked. So I made a different account to confirm this. I'm collecting my things soon and I wrote her a poem for when I walk out the door, it says. Roses are red, my love is dead, now watch me close out door, you cheating w.h.o.r.e. And just lots of lol's written all over it. She went on a trip to see her best friend but I have endless amount of realistic evidence to prove she was being unfaithful. Any thoughts how I should proceed now when I give her the poem? Lol
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Like a robot huh? Women dont want robots trying to be something they are not. They want a person who understands these things but still acts like themselves.@Glassguy that's why I'm so confused because I never initiate anything but the sexual part of things, i did everything the dj bible said and I'm here now.
@mrgoodstuff @Ranger I had a crystal methamphetamine problem. I ended up using some with her.. now that stuff makes me really feminine and insecure about myself. But she reassured me I wasn't going to lose her and look what happened
"Kids...uhm...drugs are bad, Mkay?" - Mr. Mackey/Southpark@mrgoodstuff @Ranger I had a crystal methamphetamine problem. I ended up using some with her.. now that stuff makes me really feminine and insecure about myself. But she reassured me I wasn't going to lose her and look what happened
Last time I'm gonna do this..."Kids...uhm...drugs are bad, Mkay?" - Mr. Mackey/Southpark
Uhm no you dont....hence the now 9 page thread asking 548 questions about herWhen a woman decides to block me on FB or any social platform then I'd take it as she wanting to be dismissed by me.
That's how I operate.
Because she has your hamster spinning out of control on this forum, I am going out on a limb to say that the relationship was totally your idea and not hers. Thus you forced her into a relationship, regardless of if you want to admit that or not. Even if she had brought it up, it was all done by her to complete her monkey branch swing to the next guy that she already had lined up. She was buying time to get away from you and ghost you instead of you blowing up on her. She had zero intent on staying with you.so we made a deal that we would only see each other and no-one else, she agreed, then we got into a relationship again
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Now that we know who we are dealing with in terms of drugs and meth, it is all starting to make more sense.Last time I'm gonna do this...
You drunk or something glass dude?Uhm no you dont....hence the now 9 page thread asking 548 questions about her
No but I just realized that I quoted the wrong thing lol. I didnt mean to quote you. I meant to quote OP.You drunk or something glass dude?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Figured as much.No but I just realized that I quoted the wrong thing lol. I didnt mean to quote you. I meant to quote OP.
Because your now ex gf is seeing someone new and her friend doesnt want you to be able to see what is going on through her fb page.@Ranger ranger ok I did what you said.. I accepted her friends friend request but then she blocked me.. why is this? I also told my ex I don't want her friends adding me.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.