"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Caught girlfriend cheating just now.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The message is in the medium. She is telling you, you aren't listening.
I did the next best thing, the most vile and hated creature of every woman....a much younger woman.
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When was the last time you used?
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Is this the same girl that you swore to us to leave her in your other thread? Man you really need to learn it the hard way then.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Like a robot huh? Women dont want robots trying to be something they are not. They want a person who understands these things but still acts like themselves.
My guess is there were a lot of incongruities that you dont understand but she does with your "act"
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"Some place back there
Smiling in the pictures you would take
Doing crystal myth
Will lift you up until you break
It won't stop
I won't come down, I keep stock
With a tick-tock rhythm and a bump for the drop
And then I bumped up
I took the hit I was given
Then I bumped again
And then I bumped again
How do I get back there to
The place where I fell asleep inside you?
How do I get myself back to
The place where you said
I want something else
To get me through this
Semi-charmed kind of life
I want something else
I'm not listening when you say
Good-bye"
Lyrics sounds eerily familiar I bet, OP?
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"Kids...uhm...drugs are bad, Mkay?" - Mr. Mackey/Southpark
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Uhm no you dont....hence the now 9 page thread asking 548 questions about her
Because she has your hamster spinning out of control on this forum, I am going out on a limb to say that the relationship was totally your idea and not hers. Thus you forced her into a relationship, regardless of if you want to admit that or not. Even if she had brought it up, it was all done by her to complete her monkey branch swing to the next guy that she already had lined up. She was buying time to get away from you and ghost you instead of you blowing up on her. She had zero intent on staying with you.
One person is the first person to bring up exclusiveness in a relationship. Since you said "she agreed", you will never convince me that it was her idea and not yours.
The fact of the matter is this: You do not know how to walk away, you cannot and did not identify signs that the chick was losing interest and you do not know how to properly deal with a chick showing disrespectful actions.
If you read the DJ Bible I would advise you to read it several more times because your actions are way off your words.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You only use silence and distance by withdrawing yourself from the situation and if she reaches out, she has a lot of making up to do. If her negative behavior continues after that, you walk away for good.
Your job is to fvck her. And fvck her again. Ask her to join you in something that you want to do anyway and fvck her some more. Eventually she will be hooked/in love/however you want to phrase it and she start the relationship talk. At that point you can decide if she has earned a relationship with you and if you want to be in one with her.
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Now that we know who we are dealing with in terms of drugs and meth, it is all starting to make more sense.
You drunk or something glass dude?
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No but I just realized that I quoted the wrong thing lol. I didnt mean to quote you. I meant to quote OP.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Figured as much.
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Because your now ex gf is seeing someone new and her friend doesnt want you to be able to see what is going on through her fb page.
They dont want to be friends with you on FB or for you to be able to see what they are doing.
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Start a new, revised life. You are a free agent.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.