"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you see men with mail order brides?

Bible_Belt

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Because I do, several times a week. It's always an older white guy with an ethnic Asian woman who is obviously not a native English speaker. I live in a small Midwestern town with hardly any Asian people. The woman is usually about 20 years younger. She'll be ok looking, not fat, not ugly but not super hot. They seem like happy couples.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes in retirement and semi-retirement communities, or with native ethnic latin people with women from south America.
 

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I see pretty much the same thing, but Russian women as well. The Russian women are usually pretty decent looking.

A friend and I once picked up two Russian girls on our motorcycles. Both were married, out looking for attention. They both came to America thru dating services.
 

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If one lives in any large metropolitan area in The Post-Industrial West, I'm confident that we encounter such couples more often than we recognize, even if they hook up online more than they do the mail

This isn't even getting into the increasing frequency of sugar daddies in our wealthiest enclaves
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Until a few years go by and she understands she can get way better than the dude she married here, learns about divorce laws and then bounces on his ass.
Its mind-boggling how some men voluntarily "put all there chips on number 14" in order to get some mediocre p00sy from a third world country demon.

ANY woman can change her mind at ANY moment. The more you invest, the smaller the walls you're building to your own prison. No man walks away from a woman who he spent tens of thousands on just to have her being cranky and bored around the home...
 

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Because I do, several times a week. It's always an older white guy with an ethnic Asian woman who is obviously not a native English speaker. I live in a small Midwestern town with hardly any Asian people. The woman is usually about 20 years younger. She'll be ok looking, not fat, not ugly but not super hot. They seem like happy couples.
I see them all the time, but I know what I am looking at. The men all seem to be about my height. :mad: :mad:
 

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does either the man or the woman in this case have a better option ? both have risk.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Not mail order brides. They're "passport bros". These guys likely visited foreign countries to go on dating vacations.

Most popular passport bro destinations are in southeast Asia, Latin America and Eastern Europe.
 
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