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[Plinco]

in order to prove others wrong - something I've also advised is not worth the effort if the goal is to spite others more than it is to achieve his version of happiness.

I've told you at least twice that proving others wrong was icing on the cake, not the main drive. Being around young women makes me happier because basically I'm a 19 year old dude in a 42 year old man's body.

 

[Plinco]

Let me ask a different question....What girls ARE showing interest in you @Plinco ? Some women are. Who?

I used to get a lot more ioi prior to 2020; I was in much better shape with my life then. Now, I rarely get any attention from women. Sometimes from a woman that I'm not at all interested in. With my target demographic, extremely rare, and not strong interest at that. That means I have a lot of work to do.

 

[Plinco]

Yes this is another critical thing many guys miss. You have to know what you are looking for before you can actually find it.

It would be like just going out and saying I want to get a job without knowing what type of job you want, what skills you actually have that are relevant to the job and then going on tons of interviews where you have no chance of either side being a good fit for one another because you are a fast food worker applying for a NASA Engineering position.

So to apply that metaphor to me, I'm a NASA engineer with that skill set working in fast food.

After I graduated from college, I had a heck of a time finding an entry level position because my prior work experience wasn't marketable to the job market I was seeking. I had to talk to a lot of people and drive out to Orlando many times before I finally found a job that I could finally prove myself.

 

[BPH]

I've told you at least twice that proving others wrong was icing on the cake, not the main drive. Being around young women makes me happier because basically I'm a 19 year old dude in a 42 year old man's body.

And I'd told you that you don't have to "mute" your personality, but you should seek to selectively show off what will improve your chances with these women. You don't have to be a walking billboard for how you feel.

For example, I'm a huge gamer nerd, but I'd never be caught dead walking around wearing some Halo, Call of Duty, or Fortnite shirt.

 

[Plinco]

And I'd told you that you don't have to "mute" your personality, but you should seek to selectively show off what will improve your chances with these women. You don't have to be a walking billboard for how you feel.

For example, I'm a huge gamer nerd, but I'd never be caught dead walking around wearing some Halo, Call of Duty, or Fortnite shirt.

That's correct, and an important matter of effectiveness. However what will improve or hurt my image is not something I'm a good judge on. That's why I came to you. Years ago it wasn't a problem. I used to p!ss people off from time to time just telling them the truth, or being candid with them, but now that my smv has declined so much I needed the extra help.

 

[Plinco]

@BPH @BeExcellent
Here's another way to put it. I need to be able to be effective at emotionally connect with people at my level. That means I have to be attractive to my target, which according to you two, means I have to over compensate drastically in every other area of my life.

Upgrading my appearance is the most potent thing I can do on a weekend. Everything else takes years to do. I have to do these things because I don't have much of a choice. There are some older women whom I'm attracted to, but most of them don't have the energy to turn me on sexually.

To see and hear people tell me that I'm too old for who I am stresses me out so much so that I feel pains in my chest thinking about because to be too old in the eyes of people is not a factor that I can control. I also lose a lot of sleep over it too. If my problem was something I have control over, like being good at cold approaching, or making more money, I wouldn't lose sleep over that because I would know what I need to do. What do you do about being too old in the eyes of other people? I want to get my relationship life started out and have a family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to do it short of submitting to some 'authority' figure.

 

[nicksaiz65]

@BPH @BeExcellent
Here's another way to put it. I need to be able to be effective at emotionally connect with people at my level. That means I have to be attractive to my target, which according to you two, means I have to over compensate drastically in every other area of my life.

Upgrading my appearance is the most potent thing I can do on a weekend. Everything else takes years to do. I have to do these things because I don't have much of a choice. There are some older women whom I'm attracted to, but most of them don't have the energy to turn me on sexually.

To see and hear people tell me that I'm too old for who I am stresses me out so much so that I feel pains in my chest thinking about because to be too old in the eyes of people is not a factor that I can control. I also lose a lot of sleep over it too. If my problem was something I have control over, like being good at cold approaching, or making more money, I wouldn't lose sleep over that because I would know what I need to do. What do you do about being too old in the eyes of other people? I want to get my relationship life started out and have a family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to do it short of submitting to some 'authority' figure.

I don’t think you’re too old to do it. But I think it would take making a good bit of money and a lot of approaches plus looksmaxxing like others have suggested here, in my opinion. It’s not unheard of for girls to be with guys older than them.

Just my 2 cents

 

[BackInTheGame78]

@BPH @BeExcellent
Here's another way to put it. I need to be able to be effective at emotionally connect with people at my level. That means I have to be attractive to my target, which according to you two, means I have to over compensate drastically in every other area of my life.

Upgrading my appearance is the most potent thing I can do on a weekend. Everything else takes years to do. I have to do these things because I don't have much of a choice. There are some older women whom I'm attracted to, but most of them don't have the energy to turn me on sexually.

To see and hear people tell me that I'm too old for who I am stresses me out so much so that I feel pains in my chest thinking about because to be too old in the eyes of people is not a factor that I can control. I also lose a lot of sleep over it too. If my problem was something I have control over, like being good at cold approaching, or making more money, I wouldn't lose sleep over that because I would know what I need to do. What do you do about being too old in the eyes of other people? I want to get my relationship life started out and have a family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to do it short of submitting to some 'authority' figure.

You need to completely reconfigure your mindset but if you think the other stuff takes years, this will take decades unless you spend a significant amount of time really going deep into areas of yourself that you don't want to go into.

 

[Plinco]

You need to completely reconfigure your mindset but if you think the other stuff takes years, this will take decades unless you spend a significant amount of time really going deep into areas of yourself that you don't want to go into.

The best mindset I've configured is to look at it like an adventure and a set of challenges to overcome. I can't complain about my life being boring. Since I have good taste in women, then I get the privilege of meeting and approaching hot women. As long as I'm willing to stay busy, I can't be lonely. As far as making money is concerned, I'm in the position to increase my income with the work of advertising and scaling my business, so in the long term I have the option of being more well off that way. I think I'm a smart dude, I'm a natural extrovert, I'm in excellent shape for my age, and apparently according to feedback I'm not bad looking either.

You and I had a discussion before were you thought I had a mentality problem and I trolled you a bit to see if we can get to the essence of your point of view, which I think is using conformity as a standard for maturity, social, and mental health. Otherwise I don't know what you mean by re-configuring my mindset.

I don’t think you’re too old to do it. But I think it would take making a good bit of money and a lot of approaches plus looksmaxxing like others have suggested here, in my opinion. It’s not unheard of for girls to be with guys older than them.

Just my 2 cents

I appreciate the confidence buddy!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The best mindset I've configured is to look at it like an adventure and a set of challenges to overcome. I can't complain about my life being boring. Since I have good taste in women, then I get the privilege of meeting and approaching hot women. As long as I'm willing to stay busy, I can't be lonely. As far as making money is concerned, I'm in the position to increase my income with the work of advertising and scaling my business, so in the long term I have the option of being more well off that way. I think I'm a smart dude, I'm a natural extrovert, I'm in excellent shape for my age, and apparently according to feedback I'm not bad looking either.

You and I had a discussion before were you thought I had a mentality problem and I trolled you a bit to see if we can get to the essence of your point of view, which I think is using conformity as a standard for maturity, social, and mental health. Otherwise I don't know what you mean by re-configuring my mindset.



I appreciate the confidence buddy!

I'm talking more about the stress you are putting on yourself about what others think about you.

Who cares? You can never get to the place you want to go when this is the base mindset you have where other people's opinions cause debilitating stress and anxiety.

 

[Snag87]

I can give a rate. I have been on looksmaxxing forums for years.

Which is it?

 

[plumber]

its all very simple. marketing 101, you don't adjust the buyer to buy. you figure out what they want and deliver that. if you can do that with solid delivery your a winner.

it more or less a hallucination to think that a 18 years old woman will get interested in the physical attributes of a 55 years old man. its possible, but not likely. she often will get interested in what he can do and provide. so its a reality check.

i see it all the time; 18-25 years old very interested in 60+ guys. even if the guy is in great shape and competing in combat sports he does not look like he is 30-.

play the game that fits for the season of life you are in. i guarantee that the 30- wishes he could do what the 60+ can do in other areas across the board. the women will pick from what they need/want at the moment. play the game you are set to win, and go ahead and win. ever see a young man pretend to be rich... its like an old man pretending to be young. silly....

if you want young women you can have them. but don't fool yourself as to why...

if you send me your link.. I'll feedback to you about how you would do in my area.

 

[Plinco]

its all very simple. marketing 101, you don't adjust the buyer to buy. you figure out what they want and deliver that. if you can do that with solid delivery your a winner.

it more or less a hallucination to think that a 18 years old woman will get interested in the physical attributes of a 55 years old man. its possible, but not likely. she often will get interested in what he can do and provide. so its a reality check.

i see it all the time; 18-25 years old very interested in 60+ guys. even if the guy is in great shape and competing in combat sports he does not look like he is 30-.

play the game that fits for the season of life you are in. i guarantee that the 30- wishes he could do what the 60+ can do in other areas across the board. the women will pick from what they need/want at the moment. play the game you are set to win, and go ahead and win. ever see a young man pretend to be rich... its like an old man pretending to be young. silly....

if you want young women you can have them. but don't fool yourself as to why...

if you send me your link.. I'll feedback to you about how you would do in my area.

That's basically the angle I'm taking. What do I have to do to be attractive to young ladies (?). I'm not developed "normally" so intellectually I'm past 42 but socially/emotionally I'm like 19-ish. I'm not going out of my way to act like that, I enjoy doing those things because I'm guessing that I don't feel like I'm past them or feel physically old. It's easier to have intimate conversations with either women in their late teens or women who have mental problems. Intellectually, conversations go further with high IQ people.

I'm talking more about the stress you are putting on yourself about what others think about you.

Who cares? You can never get to the place you want to go when this is the base mindset you have where other people's opinions cause debilitating stress and anxiety.

I'm a control freak and if something is important enough to me I don't like to let it slide.

 

[Cheeky_James]

So the question is, what do I have to do to attract the girls less than half my age. Social expectations can go to hell.

Maybe try put yourself in the shoes of the 20s age bracket women.
What’s your Value to them at 42 years old vs their age bracket guys?

Financial position - (?) possible Sugar daddy, perks such as dinners, presents, hotels, holidays etc
Assets - House (?) , boat (?)
Status - (?) any leverage there.? Green Card / Visa opportunity
Sexual - more experienced in bed, kinkier than the younger guys, maybe a Dom-Sub type deal, swinger lifestyle, poly lifestyles. idk (?)
Maturity - older , more spirtual guy mayhe , some kind of teacher , eg Tantric teacher dude.

I wouldn’t worry about you physical looks as much as how you dress in terms of Higher Status wear tbh. And more focus on the status dynamic , ie Teacher - Student dynamic , Dom -Sub dynamic.

Who may be interested in the above package deal …
Foreign women
Asian women, as it’s a bit more acceptable in their culture afaik.
Kink /Swinger chicks bored with their age bracket dudes, looking for a Dom / Kinky Swinger guy
Outlier chicks…alternative types…spiritual types.

maybe check out a Skilled Seducer user named ‘D. Gately ‘ he pulls much younger women (apparently) and dresses immaculately in designer suits always as part of his deal. And is a kinky swingster I think too. He has a ‘seducer of the month’ interview w Chase , that has a lot of info,

you won’t be appealing to most in the 20s bracket tbh ime. Theyll be looking in their bracket for BFs and F-Boys. I see your batting 1 in 100 in approaches….so the evidence is there.

CJ

Ps oh snap. I see the last few posts heading this way now…also I tried that website I got a 77/100 . Pretty accurate imo

 

[plumber]

That's basically the angle I'm taking. What do I have to do to be attractive to young ladies (?). I'm not developed "normally" so intellectually I'm past 42 but socially/emotionally I'm like 19-ish. I'm not going out of my way to act like that, I enjoy doing those things because I'm guessing that I don't feel like I'm past them or feel physically old. It's easier to have intimate conversations with either women in their late teens or women who have mental problems. Intellectually, conversations go further with high IQ people.

hmm.. evening university class. psychology or philosophy. if you did not already take critical thinking its allot of fun. evening masters level classes have some smart women sometimes that like to chat about stuff, or even just the home work assignments.

sure the young ones are looking good. also sounds... like its about the vibe fit. there are some good looking odd ones that are different ages and very cool. i mean that in a good way.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Go for Asian chicks I reckon.
They age very well.
Like they say with “black don’t crack”….
“Asian Don’t Raisin”
Intellectual Asian chicks in the late 20s to early 30s bracket.., my vote. Theyll look younger than their age.

 

[Lauel]

or if he got jacked and became something more like Sam Worthington/Alan Ritchson.

+1
Already slightly jacked from what I saw (forearms and their width), but definitely jacked is a ++.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's basically the angle I'm taking. What do I have to do to be attractive to young ladies (?). I'm not developed "normally" so intellectually I'm past 42 but socially/emotionally I'm like 19-ish. I'm not going out of my way to act like that, I enjoy doing those things because I'm guessing that I don't feel like I'm past them or feel physically old. It's easier to have intimate conversations with either women in their late teens or women who have mental problems. Intellectually, conversations go further with high IQ people.



I'm a control freak and if something is important enough to me I don't like to let it slide.

Until you learn to stop focusing your effort, time and energy on things outside of your control you are going to be stuck in quicksand.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The other thing is to know your lane. You are an intellectual man. Therefore you are likely going to find intellectual girls more mentally engaging.

That is a common misconception among women. Intelligent men are not necessarily looking for their intellectual match. They are not looking for a debate partner or someone to have philosophical discussions with. The average nuclear scientist or hedge fund manager is going to be attracted to the same type of woman as the average plumber or bus driver.

 

[Bokanovsky]

So the question is, what do I have to do to attract the girls less than half my age. Social expectations can go to hell.

1) $$$$ and willingness to "date" gold diggers and sugar babies.
2) Extreme fame and status (i.e. being a rockstar, movie star, etc.)
3) Being a drug dealer/pimp/other type of parasite and praying on young women from broken homes.
4) Relocating to some impoverished third-world sh!thole.