"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I can give a rate. I have been on looksmaxxing forums for years.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm shocked by the feedback. I have a 99% rejection rate so I assumed I'm ugly fugly but people are saying otherwise. Some are saying I need a haircut, but I don't know what to do with my hair.

I also ran an older photo through this site


and got a 75/100, so basically a 7.5/10, face and body. Again, surprised at that too.
 

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I'm shocked by the feedback. I have a 99% rejection rate so I assumed I'm ugly fugly but people are saying otherwise. Some are saying I need a haircut, but I don't know what to do with my hair.

I also ran an older photo through this site


and got a 75/100, so basically a 7.5/10, face and body. Again, surprised at that too.
I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.

Outside of that, social skills, social tact, understanding interpersonal dynamics, having good body language, knowing how to carry yourself, and knowing how to carry on interesting conversations in person that have enough sexual innuendo and tension built in to create some sort of differentiator between you being a nice guy and you being someone she wants to fvck are the likely things missing.

It's trial and error on dates where you keep things that work regularly and you throw out things that don't work regularly and then you keep refining and refining until you have a basic cookie cutter starting point that works more often than not and you adapt it to individual women based on the patterns you have seen with similar women that worked prior.

There is a concept called Time on Task where your abilities in a certain area directly correlate to the amount of time spent practicing/using your skills in that area. It's known by other names too, but the basic concept is the same...if you want to become good at something, you have to spend a lot of time at it at first, without getting a lot of results. As time goes on, you start improving results much quicker with less time spent so that it is not like a straight line curve but more like a curve that starts out flat for a long while and then starts slowly going up and then going up faster and faster once you reach a certain point.

How long that takes is highly individualistic because it depends a lot on how well you are at analyzing each date, how good you are at setting up and getting dates and how long of a period it takes to get say 100 dates. Dates on a consistent basis so you have practice over and over again with only a short time between them so you can actively adapt will serve much better than weeks between dates where it becomes harder to remember things and make the proper adjustments.
 
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I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.

Outside of that, social skills, social tact, understanding interpersonal dynamics, having good body language, knowing how to carry yourself, and knowing how to carry on interesting conversations in person that have enough sexual innuendo and tension built in to create some sort of differentiator between you being a nice guy and you being someone she wants to fvck are the likely things missing.

It's trial and error on dates where you keep things that work regularly and you throw out things that don't work regularly and then you keep refining and refining until you have a basic cookie cutter starting point that works more often than not and you adapt it to individual women based on the patterns you have seen with similar women that worked prior.

There is a concept called Time on Task where your abilities in a certain area directly correlate to the amount of time spent practicing/using your skills in that area. It's known by other names too, but the basic concept is the same...if you want to become good at something, you have to spend a lot of time at it at first, without getting a lot of results. As time goes on, you start improving results much quicker with less time spent so that it is not like a straight line curve but more like a curve that starts out flat for a long while and then starts slowly going up and then going up faster and faster once you reach a certain point.

How long that takes is highly individualistic because it depends a lot on how well you are at analyzing each date, how good you are at setting up and getting dates and how long of a period it takes to get say 100 dates. Dates on a consistent basis so you have practice over and over again with only a short time between them so you can actively adapt will serve much better than weeks between dates where it becomes harder to remember things and make the proper adjustments.
Very true! I think a lot of my rejections are due to the age gap.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I like the man. Solid 8/10.
Thanks! Again, I'm surprised honestly. I thought my looks went really downhill after covid, after the stress I had.
 

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Send me the link and I'll throw in my 2 cents.
 

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I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.

Outside of that, social skills, social tact, understanding interpersonal dynamics, having good body language, knowing how to carry yourself, and knowing how to carry on interesting conversations in person that have enough sexual innuendo and tension built in to create some sort of differentiator between you being a nice guy and you being someone she wants to fvck are the likely things missing.

It's trial and error on dates where you keep things that work regularly and you throw out things that don't work regularly and then you keep refining and refining until you have a basic cookie cutter starting point that works more often than not and you adapt it to individual women based on the patterns you have seen with similar women that worked prior.

There is a concept called Time on Task where your abilities in a certain area directly correlate to the amount of time spent practicing/using your skills in that area. It's known by other names too, but the basic concept is the same...if you want to become good at something, you have to spend a lot of time at it at first, without getting a lot of results. As time goes on, you start improving results much quicker with less time spent so that it is not like a straight line curve but more like a curve that starts out flat for a long while and then starts slowly going up and then going up faster and faster once you reach a certain point.

How long that takes is highly individualistic because it depends a lot on how well you are at analyzing each date, how good you are at setting up and getting dates and how long of a period it takes to get say 100 dates. Dates on a consistent basis so you have practice over and over again with only a short time between them so you can actively adapt will serve much better than weeks between dates where it becomes harder to remember things and make the proper adjustments.
Here's the exact recipe boys...its up to you.
 

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Plinco, I can tell a lot about you by this simple thread you have started.

You are looking outward to validate your looks. That tells me you lack confidence in yourself and you aren't aware where you stack up. This is your biggest hurdle to get over.

A man that is successful knows he has many other arrows in his quill that he can rely on to get the job done. He isn't going to fret over his looks not being good enough.

Look inward if you want success, no matter what you are wanting to accomplish.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Plinco, I can tell a lot about you by this simple thread you have started.

You are looking outward to validate your looks. That tells me you lack confidence in yourself and you aren't aware where you stack up. This is your biggest hurdle to get over.

A man that is successful knows he has many other arrows in his quill that he can rely on to get the job done. He isn't going to fret over his looks not being good enough.

Look inward if you want success, no matter what you are wanting to accomplish.
This is some Yoda ass advice. :rofl:

But yeah, I share these sentiments^.
 

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Plinco, I can tell a lot about you by this simple thread you have started.

You are looking outward to validate your looks. That tells me you lack confidence in yourself and you aren't aware where you stack up. This is your biggest hurdle to get over.

A man that is successful knows he has many other arrows in his quill that he can rely on to get the job done. He isn't going to fret over his looks not being good enough.

Look inward if you want success, no matter what you are wanting to accomplish.
I've started to question myself more after seeing that I only had one date from 96 approaches last year. If there's nothing wrong with the way I look, then I feel relieved. The rest of it I can control, besides my age.
 

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Very true! I think a lot of my rejections are due to the age gap.
Which points to whatever you are currently doing is not working and it's up to you to start analyzing and adjusting things.

If you are going to keep failing your goal should be to continuously fail differently, not the same way over and over again doing the same things.

Unsure how much of this you are already doing or not doing, but this would be a great starting point to consider.
 

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The other thing is to know your lane. You are an intellectual man. Therefore you are likely going to find intellectual girls more mentally engaging. If that is true then you need to figure out two things:

1. What kind of woman is your target market?

2. Where do that type of women hang out/what kind of activities does that type woman enjoy.

Maybe you like girls who are engineering geeks. Ok. Where do engineering geeks hang out & what do they enjoy? Say a robotics competition (for example).

See how specific that is? Its just an example but you get my drift.....
 

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The second pic you DM'd me, you resemble the actor Liev Schreiber. Has anyone ever told you that?

Face, hair, clothes, style. Can you see it?

You definitely need to display more confidence and internal validation, it'll make a big difference.



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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

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