This.She brought a date to a date.
The dude Is an orbiter. She wants to add you to her orbiter pile.
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This.She brought a date to a date.
Why exactly? She's just acting how women do. You're an old timer here, you should know women love attention, and its a validation seeking machine with no end.Completely disrespectful on her part.
I dont know man...... social circle game/double and tripple dates never worked out for me.I recently met a woman through a mutual friend. From the sounds of it, she's a high value woman (on paper) and very attractive. We've been chatting and getting to know each other via phone and instant messaging on Facebook and we finally had a chance to go out on Friday night. It was me, her and 3 of her friends (2 female, 1 male). We all had a good time at the local bars just hanging out. I got a little 1 on 1 time with her but not enough to make anything happen. The next day she invited me out to a sports bar to watch a big boxing match. I assumed it would just be her and her friends again. When I arrived, she had a guy with her. I shook everyone's hand and made sure I remained social with everyone. I got the opportunity to ask her girl friend what the situation is between her and that guy and she said it's just her friend. The guy monopolized her attention and I could tell he was being a bit protective when I would initiate conversation with her. It was clear he liked her more than just a friend. It made things awkward so I decided after the fight to just head somewhere else. I'm really at odds about how this played out and I'm not sure what else I could've done. Yes, talking to another woman at the bar would have probably been the best option but when her friend said the guy and her are just friends, I felt it could've killed my chances with her.
Thoughts?
You don't waste time on the front end, but if you want something more than a girl that is horny for some dihk then good luck, you'll be wasting a lot of time.You don't waste time, with MODE ONE.
*some women. And, what's your point?Why exactly? She's just acting how women do. You're an old timer here, you should know women love attention, and its a validation seeking machine with no end.
So....again...what are you trying to say here?She wanted to have all the attention for her with guys, but if you see at the end, they're all orbiters. How can you blame a bee for sting you? That's what they do.
There we go. I agree with you here.He allowed himself to be in that place of another orbiter, women act as $hitty as you let them. She was just reflecting his $hitty behavior back to him as being just another $hitty orbiter who jumped at the chance of seeing her, at least one more time with expectations of something happening, women sniff it from miles away.
Why was it disrespectful? She's not committed to any of those guys. From the girl's POV she just invited two of her "friends" to watch a boxing match. From the guy's POV is disrespectful cause he was full of expectations. See the difference?Yes, she gets away with a lot of disrespectful behavior because of her looks. Doesn't mean it's okay and isn't disrespectful.
From the girl's POV, she KNEW he was into her. So, if she didn't like him, she could have let him off easy, or toy with him.Why was it disrespectful? She's not committed to any of those guys. From the girl's POV she just invited two of her "friends" to watch a boxing match. From the guy's POV is disrespectful cause he was full of expectations. See the difference?
No kidding.Imagine an alternate reality where another guy told her no, that they'll go on a 1-1 date. Then that guy post in here how he met this gal they have fun, date was fun, they hooked up, and then she's chasing him.
Two different scenarios, same woman. Moral of the story, women change behavior when they are attracted to a guy.
I know what you're saying here. However, it wasn't clear to the OP. And that was the crux of the issue IMO. I've been on dates where other people were there, however, I knew what I was walking into. For her to blatantly surprise him like this, there is problem somewhere along the lines. I've got better things to do with my time than to be forced to talk to and entertain people I have no interest in talking to.Some the guys here omg this is so far off. We dont even know this guy may have just been some guy in the group who for whatever reason turned up and invited himself. Clearly this wasnt meant to be a 1-1 date. .
You sound like Fresh & Fit trying to make women accountable, since when that has worked? You should know women don't use over communication, they just want a guy who gets it, he didn't get it and now we label the woman as "disrespectful" because she didn't tell him "Hey I know you're into me, but I'm seeing other guys as well, who I perceive are better than you, I don't see you as fvck material, I see you as orbiter material" The medium is the message.So, if she didn't like him, she could have let him off easy, or toy with him.
He knew it wasnt a 1-1 thingI know what you're saying here. However, it wasn't clear to the OP. And that was the crux of the issue IMO. I've been on dates where other people were there, however, I knew what I was walking into. For her to blatantly surprise him like this, there is problem somewhere along the lines. I've got better things to do with my time than to be forced to talk to and entertain people I have no interest in talking to.
His fault? Her fault? Different schools of thought obviously...
But tbh the girl and the guy friend it is all about the body language and wether the girl was giving the guy friend more attention. Cos we dont really know he may have just invited himself and he may also be annoying her or it could be that the girl was herself giving the male friend more attention.It all depends on the girls behaviour and body language and whatnot like was she more interested in the guy friend and talking to him and ignoring OP or was it just the guy friend trying to get close to the girl.The next day she invited me out to a sports bar to watch a big boxing match. I assumed it would just be her and her friends again. When I arrived, she had a guy with her.
I dont think the situation necessarily implies OP was friendzoned or anything like that. She is not 'seeing other guys' as that other guy is just a friend orbiter who she has probs known for some time and he maybe likes her like and for now that guy is in the friendzone. OP should have already known he is in a better position than the other guy given that ppl are setting up OP with the girl while that other guy was in the friendzone.You sound like Fresh & Fit trying to make women accountable, since when that has worked? You should know women don't use over communication, they just want a guy who gets it, he didn't get it and now we label the woman as "disrespectful" because she didn't tell him "Hey I know you're into me, but I'm seeing other guys as well, who I perceive are better than you, I don't see you as fvck material, I see you as orbiter material" The medium is the message.
He didn't get it, she was falling into the stronger frame, which is her frame.
Seems to me like you're arguing for the sake of arguing...talking in circles without trying to understand what the other person is saying. Essentially leading the conversation nowhere.You sound like Fresh & Fit trying to make women accountable, since when that has worked? You should know women don't use over communication, they just want a guy who gets it, he didn't get it and now we label the woman as "disrespectful" because she didn't tell him "Hey I know you're into me, but I'm seeing other guys as well, who I perceive are better than you, I don't see you as fvck material, I see you as orbiter material" The medium is the message.
He didn't get it, she was falling into the stronger frame, which is her frame.
Hot girls with unattractive female friends, very common.They were unattractive…
Don’t ask another dumb question man like why is a hot girl hanging out with unattractive females. Because how the hell would I know.
@Slowhandluke What we have here is a failure to communicate.1) she's not inviting you on a date.. get the memo yet? She's calling u to casual hangouts with her friends. Can't be upset at her inviting you to casual hangouts with her friends. she has no obligation to be alone..
2) she might be a little dense to not realize you like her, or you just haven't made it clear enough
3) As a man, traditionally, you are the one whos supposed to invite HER on a date. duh? Women don't set up dates, hence shes probably just feeling you out right now, and waiting for YOU to invite HER out.
4) She obviously thinks you're cool enough to invite you out and spend time with you. But you need to make a move otherwise you won't know where her head is at. i mean do you not have any cues or signs to how she feels about you?
The other thing I forgot to mention is some women will bring you around their friends to see what their friends think about you and whether you will vibe with their friends. A good sign that she's looking for something more serious and not just a fling. Seems like a good gal with a good head on her shoulders tbh.. from the little we know.@Slowhandluke What we have here is a failure to communicate.
She's playing games consciously or subconsciously. If she is a good girl, why hasn't she been married or in a ltr? If she hasn't found the "one", why hasn't she? Unrealistic standards or is she just picking guys that don't commit?The other thing I forgot to mention is some women will bring you around their friends to see what their friends think about you and whether you will vibe with their friends. A good sign that she's looking for something more serious and not just a fling. Seems like a good gal with a good head on her shoulders tbh.. from the little we know.