woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

[MatureDJ]

Although people 50-64 do not get laid off as much as those in their 20s/30s, when they get laid off, re-employment is near impossible.

Try 40-64.

 

[Jack444]

Maybe you just need to take a shower, bro.

Yes Maybe

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Try 40-64.

Pfft. I never have to worry about being unemployed with the work ethic of these young kids.

 

[MrWood]

woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

thats her problem, not yours... and thats exactly what you should tell her.

 

[Spaz]

She lied to you and that's only an excuse.

Women, even if its sisters will compete for the man she wants.

Right now, you ain't that man.

 

[MatureDJ]

She lied to you and that's only an excuse.

Women, even if its sisters will compete for the man she wants.

Right now, you ain't that man.

This is such a good comment, I am incentivized to set up another account just so that I could Like it again.

 

[Spaz]

This is such a good comment, I am incentivized to set up another account just so that I could Like it again.

Hahaha..its truly rare for you to comment in another thread MDJ.

 

[Jack444]

She lied to you and that's only an excuse.

Women, even if its sisters will compete for the man she wants.

Right now, you ain't that man.

Thank you for this advice

 

[Jack444]

woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

thats her problem, not yours... and thats exactly what you should tell her.

Thank you for your help

 

[nismo-4]

Cut your attention off.

This is exactly why I have a 1 strike policy. 1 flake means I move on, though she fundamentally moved on first. (Right to first refusal)

Cut your attention off. She'll either cry because you're not acknowledging her (10% chance, even that's reaching), ignore you back (she told you go to hell anyway), or hook up with you (she won't).

State your intentions in terse terms. Either we get together after work or bugger off. Put her ass on the spot. Anything other than a yes with the proper actions to back it up is a no. No We'll see, no Maybe, no I'll think it over. Actions over words. All this stalling is just her delaying a no.

#micdrop

#caseclosed

 

[sosousage]

Just invite her over to your house for dinner and see what she says.

why for dinner and not for bed?

dinner ethusiast jfl

some people here are a bit weird

 

[Jack444]

Cut your attention off.

This is exactly why I have a 1 strike policy. 1 flake means I move on, though she fundamentally moved on first. (Right to first refusal)

Cut your attention off. She'll either cry because you're not acknowledging her (10% chance, even that's reaching), ignore you back (she told you go to hell anyway), or hook up with you (she won't).

State your intentions in terse terms. Either we get together after work or bugger off. Put her ass on the spot. Anything other than a yes with the proper actions to back it up is a no. No We'll see, no Maybe, no I'll think it over. Actions over words. All this stalling is just her delaying a no.

#micdrop

#caseclosed

Thank you for this advice

 

[Jack444]

Fantastic rule. A flake even 1 is a power grab.
OP this is not a love game its a power game.

Many thanks for this

 

[Jack444]

Can I have some input? Please Why yes, yes you can! I am in bold.
I get on really well with a work colleague, me 53 her 47, we often work together. If the relationship goes south, your career is at risk. We seem very close and she flirts continually with me.She talks very very sexual to me as I would expect a girlfriend to I feel we would get on together and as we are both single, I asked her out on a date 3 weeks ago. She immediately replied that she really really liked me and would date me 100% if my ex from 5 years ago was not her close friend. She said I was just what she wanted, and was really interested in dating but wanted to think it over because she would loose her friend if she dated me. She said she would let me know the day after. Three weeks later she has said nothing to me but flirts like mad and touches me but just has not said anything. Would you ask her out again or is her saying nothing a NO.... But she still flirts and gets close to me and acts like she does really want to be with me... Any help is very appreciated. Thank you.
She is using you for attention and validation. She likes to see you get excited, hot and bothered, like a puppy wagging it's tail when she comes around.

Stop responding to her flirting and act neutral. Treat her like an ugly colleague.
She will either agree to date, or stop doing it.

Thank you for your good help..