"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

thats her problem, not yours... and thats exactly what you should tell her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Spaz said:
She lied to you and that's only an excuse.

Women, even if its sisters will compete for the man she wants.

Right now, you ain't that man.
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This is such a good comment, I am incentivized to set up another account just so that I could Like it again.
 
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MatureDJ said:
This is such a good comment, I am incentivized to set up another account just so that I could Like it again.
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Hahaha..its truly rare for you to comment in another thread MDJ.
 
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MrWood said:
woman says she wants to date me but cant because my ex from 5 years ago is her close friend

thats her problem, not yours... and thats exactly what you should tell her.
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Thank you for your help
 
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Cut your attention off.

This is exactly why I have a 1 strike policy. 1 flake means I move on, though she fundamentally moved on first. (Right to first refusal)

Cut your attention off. She'll either cry because you're not acknowledging her (10% chance, even that's reaching), ignore you back (she told you go to hell anyway), or hook up with you (she won't).

State your intentions in terse terms. Either we get together after work or bugger off. Put her ass on the spot. Anything other than a yes with the proper actions to back it up is a no. No We'll see, no Maybe, no I'll think it over. Actions over words. All this stalling is just her delaying a no.

#micdrop

#caseclosed
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nismo-4 said:
Cut your attention off.

This is exactly why I have a 1 strike policy. 1 flake means I move on, though she fundamentally moved on first. (Right to first refusal)

Cut your attention off. She'll either cry because you're not acknowledging her (10% chance, even that's reaching), ignore you back (she told you go to hell anyway), or hook up with you (she won't).

State your intentions in terse terms. Either we get together after work or bugger off. Put her ass on the spot. Anything other than a yes with the proper actions to back it up is a no. No We'll see, no Maybe, no I'll think it over. Actions over words. All this stalling is just her delaying a no.

#micdrop

#caseclosed
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Thank you for this advice
 
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Mauser96 said:
Can I have some input? Please Why yes, yes you can! I am in bold.
I get on really well with a work colleague, me 53 her 47, we often work together. If the relationship goes south, your career is at risk. We seem very close and she flirts continually with me.She talks very very sexual to me as I would expect a girlfriend to I feel we would get on together and as we are both single, I asked her out on a date 3 weeks ago. She immediately replied that she really really liked me and would date me 100% if my ex from 5 years ago was not her close friend. She said I was just what she wanted, and was really interested in dating but wanted to think it over because she would loose her friend if she dated me. She said she would let me know the day after. Three weeks later she has said nothing to me but flirts like mad and touches me but just has not said anything. Would you ask her out again or is her saying nothing a NO.... But she still flirts and gets close to me and acts like she does really want to be with me... Any help is very appreciated. Thank you.
She is using you for attention and validation. She likes to see you get excited, hot and bothered, like a puppy wagging it's tail when she comes around.

Stop responding to her flirting and act neutral. Treat her like an ugly colleague.
She will either agree to date, or stop doing it.
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Thank you for your good help..
 
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