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Your Top 10 Red Flags to Look Out for

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I've definitely found that there's something to general character traits represented by the different signs - though I'm certain that it has absolutely NOTHING to do with the relative positions of stars and planets.

First of all - let me clarify:-
I have a technical/scientific background - MPhys-hons (Masters) - "Physics with Optical sciences"
And a lifelong interest in astronomy (NOT 'ology') - I give presentations on the subject.
All this "You will meet a tall dark stranger" stuff is a steaming pile of horsesh!t
However.... and bear with me a littlle....

It's possible that the time of year you are born could be the reason - As a babe-in-arms you're nothing but a sponge, soaking up everything around you - and people do act differently at different times of the year...
More optimistic as Christmas approaches - Pessimistic soon after - Happier in general during the summer.. etc...
Then there's the weather - generally colder/hotter/wetter at different periods...
More indoor social gatherings during fall/winter, longer nights - More time outdoors in summer, lighter nights....
And it will all add up...
For example, a Sagittarius, your first few months will include Christmas and the early spring, and all the things that go with it.
A Leo, your first few months will be summer, leading into the colder wetter times of the fall....
A LOT more to it than ^^^ That ^^^ but you get the idea.
I could believe that some general personality traits will be formed accordingly....

I'm a Scorpio for the record.

In practice - I really don't get along with Sagittarius or Gemini at all. (I will almost always left-swipe if this info is available)
I do really well socially with Cancer, Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo.
In the bedroom - Scorpios have a bit of a reputation, and I've found that to be generally true when I've been with a Scorp woman (Two Scorps together.... ;) )
I married a Leo - and like most Leos I've known... went great at first, then went to sh!t later. (I won't expand on why... don't want to upset any Leos reading this - but for me, things tend to start well with a Leo, but sooner or later will go South)
Don't call yourself a scientist ever again.
 

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- She travels a lot. Permission to be slutty without her family and friends knowing it.
I agree, Girls travel to take double penetration, so its not frowned upon. I know many girls who travelled and its because women have a fantasy of being taken by two or three men. It gives them a dopamine hit like no other. Ultimate Power,......

I dont blame them, I cant imagine how good Id feel with 4 half decent chics all over my body/ Like I was a king, for just existing & being mediocre.
 

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This entire thread essentially describes all women to some degree or another.
All these red flags are interchangeable to some degree or another.
Its kinda like the hot crazy matrix. Any woman can dissappear from any point on the hot crazy line and reappear in another. Lol.
Without warning
 

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Don't call yourself a scientist ever again.
LOL - Definitely NOT a scientist - Just have a technical/science-based background...

I did point out that it has F-all to do with star positions etc...

Just open to the possibility that personality traits may be influenced by events that happen during the first few months of a baby's life, when it's soaking up everything that's going on around it.
Specifics...? No idea... I'm not a psychologist...
Just saying that I've noticed some basic personality traits that are common to people with birthdays around the same time of year.

And I know that anecdotal evidence is never to be taken too seriously - and that confirmation bias will come into it at times....
But though not a hard and fast rule... People I get on well with - or do badly with... their birthdays do tend to be skewed towards certain times of the year.

Notice that I've never once, up to this point, used the words 'astrology', 'zodiac', or 'horoscope'.
 

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Another red flag she says "it's too soon"

That just means she isn't attracted to you enough, I've had women say "it's too soon to meet/give my number" on OLD. They just want to continue stringing a guy along
 

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Judge nismo plans on taking this to The Hall Of Excellence After I give my 10 flags, in no particular order.

1. Excessive tattoos
2. Love bombing
3. Generally rude to others, sloppy, or fat
4. Has a lot of male friends
5. Complains a lot/ big negative outlook on life. Extra points if the complaints are about her life not looking glamorous i.e. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
6. She wants to be "friends first" or "take it slow"
7. Vanity (always taking selfies and constant social media postings of herself
8. Excess makeup everywhere, and plastic surgery
9. Can't commit to a date (flaky)
10. Constantly talks about her exes

Here's a bonus

11. Super controlling or bossy (why would you want to be controlled like a video game character?)

Let's keep this going, in The Hall of Excellence!
 

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Basically if there is a lack of communication early on there ARE issues, this is what I have come to learn and if what she is communicating to me is something that makes me uncomfortable, I explain why and if she isn't communicating at all, then I don't change what I'm doing, but rather find different or better ways to do it, min/max with her based on her responses.

Being able to read body language very well is good, but sometimes it can create apprehension because a lot of women don't have normal body language, they respond instead of communicating.
 

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Judge nismo plans on taking this to The Hall Of Excellence After I give my 10 flags, in no particular order.

1. Excessive tattoos
2. Love bombing
3. Generally rude to others, sloppy, or fat
4. Has a lot of male friends
5. Complains a lot/ big negative outlook on life. Extra points if the complaints are about her life not looking glamorous i.e. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills
6. She wants to be "friends first" or "take it slow"
7. Vanity (always taking selfies and constant social media postings of herself
8. Excess makeup everywhere, and plastic surgery
9. Can't commit to a date (flaky)
10. Constantly talks about her exes

Here's a bonus

11. Super controlling or bossy (why would you want to be controlled like a video game character?)

Let's keep this going, in The Hall of Excellence!
You forgot hard drug user. Either current or former, unless it's been a long time since they got sober and they have clear results of an improved life.
 

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Well I guess you guys will have to be monks. No sense dealings with all these red flagged women.

Yes the perfect woman species is out there somewhere with no red flags, virginal or mostly virginal, amazing home life, isn’t influenced by society or feminism, never tries to fit in, is never influenced by crazy women, etc.

I’m sure she’s out there somewhere.
Maybe rephrase to "red flags for LTR."

In short-term or no-strings-attached situations, these things barely matter.
 

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30+ women with hair bangs.

Supposedly it's to make them look younger but in reality it's an act of 1) defiance (refusal to act their age) and also 2) asexuality (by harkening back to pre-pubesence)
 

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So many good ones have been mentioned in here.

-More than a few tattoos
-Flakiness
-Multiple cats or refers to herself as a dog mom
-Feminist/Careerist
-Advanced degree
-Divorced parents
-High travel
 

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This entire thread essentially describes all women to some degree or another.
All these red flags are interchangeable to some degree or another.
Its kinda like the hot crazy matrix. Any woman can dissappear from any point on the hot crazy line and reappear in another. Lol.
Without warning
I agree think you would be hard pressed to find a woman on the planet that doesn't exhibit at least one of the tendencies mentioned in this thread they are just very modern female style behaviours

and i'm sorry to break it to you the better looking and more desirable a woman is the more "red flags" she will usually have

I feel some of you are looking for a robot not a woman , lets not forget men are far from perfect either we have a raft of sh1ty tendencies too there are some real fvcking weirdos in the manosphere

I don't really believe men and women are psychologically built too be able to spend any prolonged period of time together let alone live together for 20/30/40 years

The main purpose of male / female attraction is too reproduce ......after that things start getting a bit complicated because modern society forces the concept of the "family unit" but this is a highly flawed process as the divorce rates show us ......

It all boils down to expectation , the higher one you have the more you will be disappointed
 

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I agree think you would be hard pressed to find a woman on the planet that doesn't exhibit at least one of the tendencies mentioned in this thread they are just very modern female style behaviours

and i'm sorry to break it to you the better looking and more desirable a woman is the more "red flags" she will usually have

I feel some of you are looking for a robot not a woman , lets not forget men are far from perfect either we have a raft of sh1ty tendencies too there are some real fvcking weirdos in the manosphere

I don't really believe men and women are psychologically built too be able to spend any prolonged period of time together let alone live together for 20/30/40 years

The main purpose of male / female attraction is too reproduce ......after that things start getting a bit complicated because modern society forces the concept of the "family unit" but this is a highly flawed process as the divorce rates show us ......

It all boils down to expectation , the higher one you have the more you will be disappointed
No such thing of a woman thats not atleast a 4 crazy
 

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Does she sleep well?
If you approach intersexual subjects, obliquely and with plausible deniability does she get it?
Does she smile and laugh a lot? Seem joyful?
Is she on antidepressants?
Does she answer questions with questions?
 
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Love bombing is the least mentioned but one of the most common red flegs. A girl must not show high interest (even if she has) on the first and second time meeting.
 

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Love bombing is the least mentioned but one of the most common red flegs. A girl must not show high interest (even if she has) on the first and second time meeting.
Dude seriously? What’s a love bomb? She sucks, slurps, and swallows? LOVE BOMB! I’ll own that girl and punish misbehavior. It’s what she craves. If you control frame you can take whatever you want whenever you want it.
 
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Dude seriously? What’s a love bomb? She sucks, slurps, and swallows? LOVE BOMB! I’ll own that girl and punish misbehavior. It’s what she craves. If you control frame you can take whatever you want whenever you want it.
Damn you are rotten to the core.
 

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Without stating some of the obvious ones, or ones already mentioned:

Has a post-grad degree / career-obsessed
Obsessed with dog/other pet
Excessively long periods of time being single OR is never single
Has few female friends and/or mostly male friends
Poor relationship with family
Nihilist/Atheist/Leftist
Drinks lots of alcohol
Close minded, solipsistic, lacks empathy (many women have these traits)
Can't cook, only eats out, doesn't understand nutrition
Doesn't do any form of exercise
Has no hobbies of any kind, just watches Netflix and listens to murder documentaries
Obsessed with phone/social media (especially TikTok)
Excessive tats/piercings, unnatural hair color
Obsessed with watching sports on TV
Does not dress or try to appear feminine
Unavailable and distant
Home/car are a cluttered mess

Bonus: Excessive shvt tests, mixed signals, distant, passive aggressive, blatant disrespect, love bombing, personality/lifestyle mirroring -> biggest red flags
 
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Without stating some of the obvious ones, or ones already mentioned:

Has a post-grad degree / career-obsessed
Obsessed with dog/other pet
Excessively long periods of time being single OR is never single
Has few female friends and/or mostly male friends
Poor relationship with family
Nihilist/Atheist/Leftist
Drinks lots of alcohol
Close minded, solipsistic, lacks empathy (many women have these traits)
Can't cook, only eats out, doesn't understand nutrition
Doesn't do any form of exercise
Has no hobbies of any kind, just watches Netflix and listens to murder documentaries
Obsessed with phone/social media (especially TikTok)
Excessive tats/piercings, unnatural hair color
Obsessed with watching sports on TV
Does not dress or try to appear feminine
Unavailable and distant
Home/car are a cluttered mess

Bonus: Excessive shvt tests, mixed signals, distant, passive aggressive, blatant disrespect, love bombing, personality/lifestyle mirroring -> biggest red flags
@FlexpertHamilton what is personality/lifestyle mirroring?
 
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