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Your Top 10 Red Flags to Look Out for

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As of now my single biggest red flag is "educated" career women in the 28+ range. I cannot stand them, they're all insufferable. The only women who do that are women who refuse to ever be dependant on a man; so 'd rather slave away a job that doesn't care about them and go on antidepressants than be loyal and faithful to a man, and that speaks volumes. Some try to claim it's because they have a "passion" for their career and I don't buy it, but even if that's true, if their passion and life goals revolve around slaving away for faceless corporate overlords, they're so beyond incompatible with my lifestyle goals and life philosophy that I'm still not interested anyway.

A women's job matters, but not for the reason they think. It matters because it reveals their character and intentions, plus the job environment matters too, if she's surrounded by thirsty men all day that's just bad, so is any job that creates a demanding or inconsistent schedule. Ideal job for women is probably something like a dental hygienist but I'd sooner date a barista or cashier than a woman with a masters or law degree.
 
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My biggest red flag is someone who is not compatible in bed. If they won’t do something you enjoy with enthusiasm, if they are not open discussing their and your bedroom needs then no matter what else is great frustration will build up over time with no resolution.
 

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Women who show off their boobs repeatedly in pics, but at the same time make a point not to show any nipple pokies or areolas under a sheer top. These women are thirst-trappers. If you can see nips or areolas they're usually open to phucking with good game on your part. The ones where you can't tend to be time-wasters.

#booblife
 

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Women who show off their boobs repeatedly in pics, but at the same time make a point not to show any nipple pokies or areolas under a sheer top. These women are thirst-trappers. If you can see nips or areolas they're usually open to phucking with good game on your part. The ones where you can't tend to be time-wasters.

#booblife
That's...oddly specific
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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1) 3rd/4th-wave feminist
2) pro-free abortion
3) tattoos
4) likes to party often in clubs (sign of promiscuouity)
5) likes to travel a lot (the most hypergamous females use every travel opportunity to go for ONS under this or another pretense)
6) concentrated too much on her rather average/uninteresting job
7) high-spender / dating-app profile photos dripping with other guys money spent on her so far
8) dislike pets or not particularly fond of them (sign of poorly developed EQ)
9) opinionated but unimpressive IQ therefore very annoying in convos
10) work in totally different area which leads to lack of understanding (if you have high intensity/stressful environment and your date choice is low impact/low stress job then she will most probably not understand what you need to deal with on everyday basis - she needs to understand or you need to get rid of her company)
 

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- Parents are separated or divorced. She will always have this fear of being abandoned again or not being worthy enough and will sabotage relationships because of it.

- She travels a lot. Permission to be slutty without her family and friends knowing it.

- She has a cat. A substitute for the children that she may never have.

- She moved from a small town to a big city to study or work. Sex and the City lifestyle here I am.

- She tells you she's a feminist. In my mind I hear "I have a free pass to be a **** whenever it pleases me".

- She is super into you very early on, without you doing anything (love bombing)

- She is an only child. A big chance that she's entitled.

- She just broke up with her longtime boyfriend. If you hear her talk bad about him like he was "too controlling" you can be sure she's in her "just having fun and enjoying" phase and you're not going to be the only guy she's going to see.

There are plenty more but can't really think of others right now.
I never understood why a seduction site has men who care about red flags. If I wanted to be a high-body-count player, I’d want red-flagged women.
 

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The heck is wrong with you?
Nothing. If my aim was primarily seduction and spinning plates/pumping and dumping, why would I care about red flags? Not sure how tats, feminist ideas, a career, etc., would affect me while screwing.
 

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Nothing. If my aim was primarily seduction and spinning plates/pumping and dumping, why would I care about red flags? Not sure how tats, feminist ideas, a career, etc., would affect me while screwing.
You'll care about red flags when you're subject to hysterics, domestic violence, arrest, dismissal from from work, and get your reputation ruined. Because that's what you can get if you dip your wick in crazy.
 

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You'll care about red flags when you're subject to hysterics, domestic violence, arrest, dismissal from from work, and get your reputation ruined. Because that's what you can get if you dip your wick in crazy.
For such extreme red flags, then yes, caution is warranted.
 
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Nothing. If my aim was primarily seduction and spinning plates/pumping and dumping, why would I care about red flags? Not sure how tats, feminist ideas, a career, etc., would affect me while screwing.
Because when you grow up, your career and reputation grows with you. If you have no career or career that does not need reputation (or just needs a bit of it), then do as you wish. If you do not need to build career, wealth and money because someone else did it for you, then do as you wish. But if you will suffer because of your choices, go back to this thread and reread what you have read before with different mindset.
 

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8) dislike pets or not particularly fond of them (sign of poorly developed EQ)
I consider this high EQ as long as she doesn't hate animals. Too many people get pets without thinking. I love animals but am not fond of them in my house.
 
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I love animals but am not fond of them in my house.
If you don't want them around you then you do not love them. It does not necessarily mean someone's EQ is low, but it is most probably not greater than average. Connected with other red flags, it is a red flag to me - generally I find ppl w/o animals high on egoism scale, alas it may be only temporary state - if it is fixed state (they have no animals for years) I am usually right about this observation.
 
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I saw that this post was reopened by someone, and have interesting topics.

Has it ever happened to you that your GF, or the woman in a LTR, loses interest in her partner because he is no longer desirable or has lost his attractiveness? For example, he may start to gain weight—though not to the point of obesity—or lose hair, but not become completely bald.

Is this a red flag? (In other words a woman who loses her "sexual" interest or "desire" for you immediately after that, and maybe start to "glance" around)
 

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If you don't want them around you then you do not love them.
Not true; I love animals. In the wild, or other people's pets. They seem to love me too, the domesticated ones anyway.

I just draw the line at having my own pet. I live in a city and I don't think it's good for the pet, personally. I also don't think they're very clean. Perhaps if I lived in the country where a dog could run around freely I'd be open to the idea. There's also the question of where the pets are sourced.
 

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If you don't get emotionally entangled and if you keep her away from where she can find you, you have less chance of 'one thing leading to another' but you have to be self-aware and understand who you're dealing with. If you can't do that, then these 'hot but crazy' women are best avoided.
I agree with you, it's easier said than done though!
 
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He says, 'animals'. There are plenty of animals that I like but wouldn't want as pets. (....)
Right, except he used word "love". I think he has mixed it up with finding some of them "aesthetically pleasing" but it's not love.

I like dogs, and dogs like me, but I don't want a dog as a pet.

My current pets are 1 cat and 1 snake.
Therefore, you love at least some of the animals and find other aesthetically pleasing, which is perfectly fine.

And as I stated before, my cat warns me when people are not on the level (he hissed at Delilah).
Yup, cats are great, I love them. I am always pondering whether to get more than one I have right now but my household is not ready for it yet (my time for my little friend has shrinked recently anyway and soon I will have a child, so...).

Not true; I love animals. In the wild, or other people's pets. They seem to love me too, the domesticated ones anyway.
IMHO you find them aesthetically pleasing, interesting i.e. nice to look at or touch, you understand they are important etc. - but you do not love them. Love is also about your strong need to be around something or someone. If it will be taken from you or this need of being around kept unfulfilled, you will suffer emotional pain. I doubt you will suffer it if you will not take the weekend trip to zoo every few weeks. You are free to define it otherwise, but for me what you have described (even if it is a positive indication about you) is not love.

I just draw the line at having my own pet. I live in a city and I don't think it's good for the pet, personally. I also don't think they're very clean. Perhaps if I lived in the country where a dog could run around freely I'd be open to the idea. There's also the question of where the pets are sourced.
Tbh I have heard this reasoning many times - I am certainly not stating that you are the same or even similar to that person in this regard, but many years ago I had an aquaintance in my group of college friends that had a small apartment (no mortgage) bought by parents, that was close to her work. She loved attending cultural events, going to movies, taking trips around the world, attending parties with her close circle of friends. She also liked to tell everyone that she loves animals (and liked memes about them) but never had any dog or cat, arguing usually that her apartment is too small and that she does not have the time to take care of any animals. Her parents were successful professionals, definitely intelligent people, they had a dog. In spite of that, she did not have any need for animals around herself, and what's interesting, struggled at deeper side of emotional communication often. Objectively, she had all the means to take care of at least one animal, she has just never preferred to take any. Due to the deficiencies in EQ over the years she has struggled with her career which never really took off despite theoretically having excellent conditions for much more positive outcome.

In the same time I was renting a room and took a cat from shelter (before I went to college in my parents house were always some animals - cats or dogs) eventhough my rent for the room was about 40% of my first work salary at that time. I could not take fancy trips, and after some time (eventhough I love that cat, took it with me for short trips, played with her a lot) I had to leave the cat at my grandparents house which she loved when I visited them with her (I got a good contract opportunity far away from my previous city, and taking her with me would be very stressful for her and I would have to leave her alone for many hours, her life would change). Cats are little bit more about places they know than ppl they know when compared with dogs. So I left my little best friend at the best place I could at that time (grandparents house she loved) eventhough it was painful for me. I have visited her and my grandparents many times after that. Years later, I took another cat. Pain of not having and not being able to maintain living beings around me that I wanted at that time (including the girl I loved) motivated me to change my life, I got a good job eventually, understood myself better in the meantime - I also understood that I need a cat (again). My cat is probably not the smartest being in the world (but I prefer to defend his rebellious behaviour in front of my wife) but its sitting next to my shoulder right now when I write these words and I talk to this little guy about various things. Sure he does not understand anything I say except that I need him and I like to spend time with him, but I need this emotional connection with other species to feel happy and complete.

Regarding dirt or animals getting something dirty at home - tbh things getting dirty is perfectly normal. Everything wears out after some time - whether it is fresh paint on the walls, your clothes (btw. bye bye my old italian coat) or human flesh itself. In the "great scope of things" it does not matter even if it is annoying. If you objectively have means to take of any animal, you should do it. It changes life for better.
 
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