No, yes. I wouldn't mind a woman that was richer than me and spent money on me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Would you disown your daughter if she set her profile picture to being surrounded by guys?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Manure Spherian
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Why do you want one? Why don’t you have one?
That happens regardless. Married men never have the upper hand. Period.
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No it doesn't. Perhaps the people who think about "upper hands" are the reason why their marriages don't actually work.
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Oh yeah?
Does that go for my former friend who told his wife, “I’ll give you a million dollars to leave,” for her to decline the offer, and who repeatedly cheated with no resultant divorce?
How about my acquaintance, a surgeon, who cheated, with no resultant divorce?
Or a multimillionaire friend of my family with a stay-at-home wife? Though their marriage is fine, if heaven forbid something were to go wrong, he could bury her in divorce court?
I agree with the above though, despite two bad examples provided here, having an upper hand on another is a bad sign.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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How do your friends who are cheating have the upper hand? I would suspect that they are cheating because they’re unhappy in their relationship, and they know that if they went to court they would lose a boat load of money. Your friends sound like their wives have them completely by the balls to be honest.
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Jesus, most of you talk about women being bat Shiite crazy - you all are facking certifiable…
Cuz I'm heterosexual male. And I've never had a conversation with a woman before. By that I mean, all the conversations I had, are where women say the "minimum required" and ends with I end the conversation, which is when I run out of things to say.
Women don't give the earned, to the unearned. Therefore, women don't talk to men for free. And I don't mind paying a conversation with a woman, but they never ask or insist you do.
Do men ever have the upper hand in marriages, or should I say, relationships? Aside from the early 1900s...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pierce Manhammer
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Doesn't exist. And they (non-professional) would charge a lot, for an employment-cell.
Murk
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Am I the only one that doesn’t see a group picture with 1 girl and think she’s a h0e? I will most likely judge the girl based on how everyone else (I assume to be friends) looks. That’s about it.
The tough guy parade CONTINUES
Every single relationship of any kind has an uneven distribution of power. In the case of marriage, all law and custom is on her side — it’s the apex of the delusion you see around these parts to believe you’re anything but a bug hoping not to be squashed.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wow, OWNED. So many BIG SWINGING ****S on this here board
She is your daughter if she doing that you brought her up that way. Simple.
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
There's quite a major amount of exceptions.
There are daughters of pastors that are sloots.
In fact, there are people who go
"My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I hate alcholics."
And "My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I'm an alcoholic."
Okay, here's a new paradox for you guys.
Suppose a daughter sleeps with a guy. But she didn't get paid for it. Vs. she did get paid for it. Which is worse for you? If she got paid for it, then there's all these insult words that people come up with, that might or might not affect what you think. Lol.