No, yes. I wouldn't mind a woman that was richer than me and spent money on me.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Would you disown your daughter if she set her profile picture to being surrounded by guys?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Why do you want one? Why don’t you have one?
That happens regardless. Married men never have the upper hand. Period.
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No it doesn't. Perhaps the people who think about "upper hands" are the reason why their marriages don't actually work.
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Oh yeah?
Does that go for my former friend who told his wife, “I’ll give you a million dollars to leave,” for her to decline the offer, and who repeatedly cheated with no resultant divorce?
How about my acquaintance, a surgeon, who cheated, with no resultant divorce?
Or a multimillionaire friend of my family with a stay-at-home wife? Though their marriage is fine, if heaven forbid something were to go wrong, he could bury her in divorce court?
I agree with the above though, despite two bad examples provided here, having an upper hand on another is a bad sign.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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How do your friends who are cheating have the upper hand? I would suspect that they are cheating because they’re unhappy in their relationship, and they know that if they went to court they would lose a boat load of money. Your friends sound like their wives have them completely by the balls to be honest.
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Jesus, most of you talk about women being bat Shiite crazy - you all are facking certifiable…
Cuz I'm heterosexual male. And I've never had a conversation with a woman before. By that I mean, all the conversations I had, are where women say the "minimum required" and ends with I end the conversation, which is when I run out of things to say.
Women don't give the earned, to the unearned. Therefore, women don't talk to men for free. And I don't mind paying a conversation with a woman, but they never ask or insist you do.
Do men ever have the upper hand in marriages, or should I say, relationships? Aside from the early 1900s...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Doesn't exist. And they (non-professional) would charge a lot, for an employment-cell.
Murk
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Am I the only one that doesn’t see a group picture with 1 girl and think she’s a h0e? I will most likely judge the girl based on how everyone else (I assume to be friends) looks. That’s about it.
The tough guy parade CONTINUES
Every single relationship of any kind has an uneven distribution of power. In the case of marriage, all law and custom is on her side — it’s the apex of the delusion you see around these parts to believe you’re anything but a bug hoping not to be squashed.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wow, OWNED. So many BIG SWINGING ****S on this here board
She is your daughter if she doing that you brought her up that way. Simple.
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
There's quite a major amount of exceptions.
There are daughters of pastors that are sloots.
In fact, there are people who go
"My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I hate alcholics."
And "My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I'm an alcoholic."
Okay, here's a new paradox for you guys.
Suppose a daughter sleeps with a guy. But she didn't get paid for it. Vs. she did get paid for it. Which is worse for you? If she got paid for it, then there's all these insult words that people come up with, that might or might not affect what you think. Lol.