No, yes. I wouldn't mind a woman that was richer than me and spent money on me.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Would you disown your daughter if she set her profile picture to being surrounded by guys?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Why do you want one? Why don’t you have one?
That happens regardless. Married men never have the upper hand. Period.
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No it doesn't. Perhaps the people who think about "upper hands" are the reason why their marriages don't actually work.
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Oh yeah?
Does that go for my former friend who told his wife, “I’ll give you a million dollars to leave,” for her to decline the offer, and who repeatedly cheated with no resultant divorce?
How about my acquaintance, a surgeon, who cheated, with no resultant divorce?
Or a multimillionaire friend of my family with a stay-at-home wife? Though their marriage is fine, if heaven forbid something were to go wrong, he could bury her in divorce court?
I agree with the above though, despite two bad examples provided here, having an upper hand on another is a bad sign.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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How do your friends who are cheating have the upper hand? I would suspect that they are cheating because they’re unhappy in their relationship, and they know that if they went to court they would lose a boat load of money. Your friends sound like their wives have them completely by the balls to be honest.
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Jesus, most of you talk about women being bat Shiite crazy - you all are facking certifiable…
Cuz I'm heterosexual male. And I've never had a conversation with a woman before. By that I mean, all the conversations I had, are where women say the "minimum required" and ends with I end the conversation, which is when I run out of things to say.
Women don't give the earned, to the unearned. Therefore, women don't talk to men for free. And I don't mind paying a conversation with a woman, but they never ask or insist you do.
Do men ever have the upper hand in marriages, or should I say, relationships? Aside from the early 1900s...
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Pierce Manhammer
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Doesn't exist. And they (non-professional) would charge a lot, for an employment-cell.
Murk
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Am I the only one that doesn’t see a group picture with 1 girl and think she’s a h0e? I will most likely judge the girl based on how everyone else (I assume to be friends) looks. That’s about it.
The tough guy parade CONTINUES
Every single relationship of any kind has an uneven distribution of power. In the case of marriage, all law and custom is on her side — it’s the apex of the delusion you see around these parts to believe you’re anything but a bug hoping not to be squashed.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wow, OWNED. So many BIG SWINGING ****S on this here board
She is your daughter if she doing that you brought her up that way. Simple.
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
You as a man needs to explain the danger ahead if she continues. Girls these days think they can do anything and get away with it until they meet someone who will hold them accountable and the label him misogynistic. Let her know if she wants a high value and men to value she better start behaving right. You're man I guess you consider yourself high value. The question is will you marry a girl like your daughter. If not then advice her to behave right before she spends her 40s in your house with 4 kids from different men
There's quite a major amount of exceptions.
There are daughters of pastors that are sloots.
In fact, there are people who go
"My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I hate alcholics."
And "My dad was an alcoholic, therefore, I'm an alcoholic."
Okay, here's a new paradox for you guys.
Suppose a daughter sleeps with a guy. But she didn't get paid for it. Vs. she did get paid for it. Which is worse for you? If she got paid for it, then there's all these insult words that people come up with, that might or might not affect what you think. Lol.