Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
In your experience, you would have got some nasty responses with openers like 'wanna ****', but nobody threatened to call the police. What are some of the nasty responses you got? Suppose a woman really does call the police?dbot said:However, if she tells you to get lost and you continue to bother her, that is harassment.
It seemed to be the smartest approach because you are playing a direct number's game. If you are looking for sex, then you are being straight. There is no 'game-playing' or any nonsence to get to that goal.dbot said:The bottom line? Asking a stranger if she wants to fuck is definitely not the smartest approach, but so long as you respect your boundaries, I wouldn't worry too much about any serious legal consequences.
The other poster lives in New York City, USA, which is supposed to be crowded. This means, there is a risk you could get into trouble with the law.dbot said:I also live in Southern California, so don't assume this applies to you if you're living in a small, conservative town in Utah, for example.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
corrector said:The other poster lives in New York City, USA, which is supposed to be crowded. This means, there is a risk you could get into trouble with the law.
Even if you are right -- you are going to tell the cops you all you are doing is asking women out there in public if they want to have sex with you? You could still get charged with loitering and being a public nuisance.
Want to play the numbers game? Try this one:corrector said:It seemed to be the smartest approach because you are playing a direct number's game. If you are looking for sex, then you are being straight. There is no 'game-playing' or any nonsence to get to that goal.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thank-you dbot.dbot said:Want to play the numbers game? Try this one:
"Hi, what's your name?"
"Rebecca."
"Rebecca, sorry if I'm being rather forward, but I happen to find you extremely attractive. Want to come home with me?"
I'm willing to bet you'll be much more effective saying that as opposed to "hey wanna fuck?" You also won't receive nearly as many negative responses.
As far as negative responses I got when I did this, most women just turned and walked away. A few called me an asshole or something similar. Others laughed or rolled their eyes in a condescending manner.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.