You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In your experience, you would have got some nasty responses with openers like 'wanna ****', but nobody threatened to call the police. What are some of the nasty responses you got? Suppose a woman really does call the police?dbot said:However, if she tells you to get lost and you continue to bother her, that is harassment.
It seemed to be the smartest approach because you are playing a direct number's game. If you are looking for sex, then you are being straight. There is no 'game-playing' or any nonsence to get to that goal.dbot said:The bottom line? Asking a stranger if she wants to fuck is definitely not the smartest approach, but so long as you respect your boundaries, I wouldn't worry too much about any serious legal consequences.
The other poster lives in New York City, USA, which is supposed to be crowded. This means, there is a risk you could get into trouble with the law.dbot said:I also live in Southern California, so don't assume this applies to you if you're living in a small, conservative town in Utah, for example.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
corrector said:The other poster lives in New York City, USA, which is supposed to be crowded. This means, there is a risk you could get into trouble with the law.
Even if you are right -- you are going to tell the cops you all you are doing is asking women out there in public if they want to have sex with you? You could still get charged with loitering and being a public nuisance.
Want to play the numbers game? Try this one:corrector said:It seemed to be the smartest approach because you are playing a direct number's game. If you are looking for sex, then you are being straight. There is no 'game-playing' or any nonsence to get to that goal.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Thank-you dbot.dbot said:Want to play the numbers game? Try this one:
"Hi, what's your name?"
"Rebecca."
"Rebecca, sorry if I'm being rather forward, but I happen to find you extremely attractive. Want to come home with me?"
I'm willing to bet you'll be much more effective saying that as opposed to "hey wanna fuck?" You also won't receive nearly as many negative responses.
As far as negative responses I got when I did this, most women just turned and walked away. A few called me an asshole or something similar. Others laughed or rolled their eyes in a condescending manner.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.