"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where is the interest level scale??

Noseekey

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Can someone please link it?

I can’t find it and NEED it badly

Thank you
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Someone on an old thread once posted the interest level scale stating different zones/tiers regarding how much interest a woman has toward you
For example
100-90 a fvck ton
89-80 a lot
79-70 ehh
Less than that was none but keeping you around for whatever reason.

just wanted to see the more detailed version
 

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She is interested if she is doing some legwork so you guys can meet and do stuff togheter

if she is making things difficult on purpose , you should try to be persistent a bit , just for her to know that you are interested and not a p8ssy , and then just back down and wait for her to start chasing :)
 

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Someone on an old thread once posted the interest level scale stating different zones/tiers regarding how much interest a woman has toward you
For example
100-90 a fvck ton
89-80 a lot
79-70 ehh
Less than that was none but keeping you around for whatever reason.

just wanted to see the more detailed version
This is just dumb. If she wants to see you she is interested. If you have sex she is interested.

If she backs off, you back off. Respond to texts and be upbeat and positive but don't initiate and don't try and get her to hang out immediately. Let her work for your time.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Interested: does everything you want
Not interested: makes excuses and kochblocks you at every turn
That is way too simplistic and if guys really believe this then I doubt they have relationships that last longer than a few months. There is always give and take in any long term relationship with someone and to suggest otherwise suggests a completely immature or unrealistic view of how relationships work.
 

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Where is the interest (edit: lowest) level scale??
Big fat dusgusting walrus of a chick?

That's gotta be a -100 on the scale... :eek: ;)

Whale = really fat =Subtract 50 points
Walrus = Distrusting fat lol = Subtract 100 points from the normal scare example above..
 
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I think that I have an idea where you are coming from. Personally speaking, if I've met a gal that seems to be a cut above the rest, my clarity has been known to become clouded. Despite certain claims on this forum, this is not "oneitus." Technically speaking, it's a dopamine spike (sort of like a temporary high or temporary lapse of reason). When this occurs, getting an outside perspective is usually a good idea.

Are you getting conflicting messages? Fill us in on some details and we'll attempt to provide you with some theories.

By the way, I see that you are newer here. Don't be fooled into thinking that everyone else here is a pro. Here's a tip. If you see a member overusing terms such as "cuck" "beta" or "alpha" ... chances are these are simple novices pretending to know more than they actrually do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That is way too simplistic and if guys really believe this then I doubt they have relationships that last longer than a few months. There is always give and take in any long term relationship with someone and to suggest otherwise suggests a completely immature or unrealistic view of how relationships work.
Interested: does everything you want
Not interested: makes excuses and kochblocks you at every turn

Obviously these are the extremes and there is everything in between.
 
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