Black Sunshine
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I'd like to hear y'all say what having your "s**t" together means...
Thanks,
BlackSunshine
Thanks,
BlackSunshine
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What does it mean to you fellas, to "have your s**t together?
- Thread starter Black Sunshine
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
dustmuffin
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Yep that covers it. You also need to keep your place clean and maintained. Have your finances in order. Just normal everyday stuff.
Tictac
Banned
"I live for myself and answer to no one."
Steve McQueen
Steve McQueen
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
logicallefty
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Stable income that you legitimately work or worked for, reliable transportation, the means and/or abilities to own and solve the problems that come up in your life without dumping them onto other people.
Dhoulmagus
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You would know if you did
Maximus Rex
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To not be dependent upon a job for your source of income. If you have "Eff you," money, and you can quit a job when it's no longer to your liking or the supervisor is actin' up, in addition to your standard of living, savings, and retirement funds aren't affected, then you have you're sh*t together.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I once had a crackhead tell me that I really had my sh!t together. I was thinking, "well, compared to you I do."
Black Sunshine
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I once had a crackhead tell me she'd do me and my friend for 20 bucks!
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Black Sunshine
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But thanks guys.... what you say is the foundation for confidence...
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
having a clear mind and conscious... also, having all the categories in place to do what needs to be done.
All important aspects of your life and life in general are covered by you. All branches of your life are treated with enough care that they are sustainable even while you aren't there all the time. Your family (parents) is taken care of. Your house is taken care of. Your businesses are taken care of. Clean home, clean office. You have a healthy system of life.
You feel secure in what you're doing and you're not afraid to take risks. You're spiritually strong enough to risk it all. You're able to sleep most nights peacefully because you know that your actions are in-tune with your goals.
My answer is pretty materialistic
You feel secure in what you're doing and you're not afraid to take risks. You're spiritually strong enough to risk it all. You're able to sleep most nights peacefully because you know that your actions are in-tune with your goals.
My answer is pretty materialistic
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.