"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What does it mean to you fellas, to "have your s**t together?

Black Sunshine

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I'd like to hear y'all say what having your "s**t" together means...
Thanks,
BlackSunshine
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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Have your own place, have your own vehicle, have a career and /or own your own business, act like a responsible adult, not be in debt up to your eyeballs, and don't depend on anyone for anything.
 

dustmuffin

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Have your own place, have your own vehicle, have a career and /or own your own business, act like a responsible adult, not be in debt up to your eyeballs, and don't depend on anyone for anything.
Yep that covers it. You also need to keep your place clean and maintained. Have your finances in order. Just normal everyday stuff.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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logicallefty

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Stable income that you legitimately work or worked for, reliable transportation, the means and/or abilities to own and solve the problems that come up in your life without dumping them onto other people.
 

Maximus Rex

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To not be dependent upon a job for your source of income. If you have "Eff you," money, and you can quit a job when it's no longer to your liking or the supervisor is actin' up, in addition to your standard of living, savings, and retirement funds aren't affected, then you have you're sh*t together.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Black Sunshine

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I once had a crackhead tell me she'd do me and my friend for 20 bucks!
 
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wifehunter

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having a clear mind and conscious... also, having all the categories in place to do what needs to be done.
 

oOh Nasty

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All important aspects of your life and life in general are covered by you. All branches of your life are treated with enough care that they are sustainable even while you aren't there all the time. Your family (parents) is taken care of. Your house is taken care of. Your businesses are taken care of. Clean home, clean office. You have a healthy system of life.

You feel secure in what you're doing and you're not afraid to take risks. You're spiritually strong enough to risk it all. You're able to sleep most nights peacefully because you know that your actions are in-tune with your goals.

My answer is pretty materialistic :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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