"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do you do when a girl you like is not physically available

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Hello everyone

I was wondering what you should do when you won't be seeing a girl you're interested in for like 2 to 3 months

Keep up via text or just let her be till when you guys are in the same location again
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hello everyone

I was wondering what you should do when you won't be seeing a girl you're interested in for like 2 to 3 months

Keep up via text or just let her be till when you guys are in the same location again
Let her be until she's around again 100%
 

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Date other women until and if she’s in your area. Text her if you want, but stay busy with the women that are actually available to you…
 

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Hello everyone

I was wondering what you should do when you won't be seeing a girl you're interested in for like 2 to 3 months

Keep up via text or just let her be till when you guys are in the same location again
Maybe touch base once a week or every other week and work on meeting and dating other women.
 

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Thanks. I guess I agree with minimal conversation cos texting gets boring in situations like that
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I agree with the general consensus of the other answers but also think it depends on what you've already established. You say you're interested in her and won't be seeing her for awhile but have you ever been with her?
 

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I agree with the general consensus of the other answers but also think it depends on what you've already established. You say you're interested in her and won't be seeing her for awhile but have you ever been with her?
No. Someone I know but we became physically separated before I made a move
 

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No. Someone I know but we became physically separated before I made a move
Do you actually know for a fact that she's interested or are you in first stage of the friend zone?

You should always make a move as quickly as possible to avoid situations just like this.
 

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Do you actually know for a fact that she's interested or are you in first stage of the friend zone?

You should always make a move as quickly as possible to avoid situations just like this.
I don't really know TBH but I don't think I'm in the friend one. My university has been closed since March due to COVID and I haven't been texting some at all
 

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I don't really know TBH but I don't think I'm in the friend one. My university has been closed since March due to COVID and I haven't been texting some at all
Friend zone type 1 is when you don't know where you stand because you didn't make a move.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you didn't have the chance to develop a strong bond beforehand you shouldn't even entertain the idea of this.
 

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No. Someone I know but we became physically separated before I made a move
Then I would say you just have to move on and meet other girls. Should do that regardless, but if it's a girl nothing has ever happened with there's just no point worrying about her. We've all done it, but it's a waste of energy. maybe something will happen down the road, maybe it won't, but pining over her won't help you get her.
 

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Friend zone type 1 is when you don't know where you stand because you didn't make a move.
Lol, I'm going to change that. I don't just want to be dude that has asked out multiple girls within the same social circle.
I guess the real problem here is I'm not making an effort out of my social circle
 

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Stop messing with her. don't have time for that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How am I messing with her
I'm responding to your title. You said the girl is not physically available.. Your post says something different but either way it sounds like its time to move around man.. stop focusign on this girl you won't even see her for 2-3 months. abundance man.. abundance... theres girls id ont talk to for more than that long, and i don't even worry what they're thinking.. im focused on me and what i got going on
 

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I'm responding to your title. You said the girl is not physically available.. Your post says something different but either way it sounds like its time to move around man.. stop focusign on this girl you won't even see her for 2-3 months. abundance man.. abundance... theres girls id ont talk to for more than that long, and i don't even worry what they're thinking.. im focused on me and what i got going on
Alright, I get it now
 

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Lol, I'm going to change that. I don't just want to be dude that has asked out multiple girls within the same social circle.
I guess the real problem here is I'm not making an effort out of my social circle
It's better than being the guy that hasn't asked them out and is stuck in the friend zone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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