"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What do you do when a girl you like is not physically available
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In2theGame
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Let her be until she's around again 100%
BackInTheGame78
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Maybe touch base once a week or every other week and work on meeting and dating other women.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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No. Someone I know but we became physically separated before I made a move
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Do you actually know for a fact that she's interested or are you in first stage of the friend zone?
You should always make a move as quickly as possible to avoid situations just like this.
I don't really know TBH but I don't think I'm in the friend one. My university has been closed since March due to COVID and I haven't been texting some at all
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Friend zone type 1 is when you don't know where you stand because you didn't make a move.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Then I would say you just have to move on and meet other girls. Should do that regardless, but if it's a girl nothing has ever happened with there's just no point worrying about her. We've all done it, but it's a waste of energy. maybe something will happen down the road, maybe it won't, but pining over her won't help you get her.
Lol, I'm going to change that. I don't just want to be dude that has asked out multiple girls within the same social circle.
I guess the real problem here is I'm not making an effort out of my social circle
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How am I messing with her
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
make a move
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I'm responding to your title. You said the girl is not physically available.. Your post says something different but either way it sounds like its time to move around man.. stop focusign on this girl you won't even see her for 2-3 months. abundance man.. abundance... theres girls id ont talk to for more than that long, and i don't even worry what they're thinking.. im focused on me and what i got going on
Yeah, I would but not online
Alright, I get it now
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It's better than being the guy that hasn't asked them out and is stuck in the friend zone.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.