"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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randalljohnson

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Hey all. For those of you who aren't familiar with me and my relationship with my girlfriend, look on my profile under my Posts and you can read my previous threads on here.

Life has been a rollercoaster for me. I work close to 80 hours a week. My baby is almost a year old, and my kid (from my other relationship) is almost 10. Time sure does fly. For the real meat and potatoes-- my girlfriend. We're still together. It's been 2 years that we've been together now. It's the same type of ordeal-- up and down. Right now it's up. Which is good. She still doesn't have a job and is playing the role of a stay-at-home mom. As for the questionable social media behavior, she still gives a few guys an abnormal amount of attention on instagram (liking all of their pics, even pics of their baby children. This one guy is a single dad.) So that still rubs me the wrong way.. But she's been posting recently on facebook how much she loves me which is nice to see her publicly brag about our affinity. She still hasn't mentioned marriage (as some of you can recall, several months ago a friend made a comment to her about us getting married and she said "yeahhhh don't see that happening.") I wasn't planning on getting married tomorrow, but the way she said that rubbed me the wrong way. But like I said, we're in an up-cycle right now and things are going okay. I still work a ton. The house we moved into (about a year ago) is nice. Just me, her, her kid, my kid, and our new baby together. So what's up guys?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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randalljohnson

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so you work 80h per week and have kid with unfaithful wife.
dont worry..

it will be better
Unfaithful? Unfaithful would be if she cheated on me. Which I don't believe she has. And she's my girlfriend, dude. Not my wife.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Roober

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
 

sazc

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
No, that's a different guy.

Man bigdave had me so entertained, I forgot about Randall Johnson
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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marmel75

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sazc

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sazc

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Roober

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
I dont get why so many men think this is some sort of good thing? It's like people who say they study for 6 hours. They study for 1 or 2, and waste the other 4 with all sorts of nonsense. I finally hit over six figures and work about 15 hours a week.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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