"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey all. For those of you who aren't familiar with me and my relationship with my girlfriend, look on my profile under my Posts and you can read my previous threads on here.

Life has been a rollercoaster for me. I work close to 80 hours a week. My baby is almost a year old, and my kid (from my other relationship) is almost 10. Time sure does fly. For the real meat and potatoes-- my girlfriend. We're still together. It's been 2 years that we've been together now. It's the same type of ordeal-- up and down. Right now it's up. Which is good. She still doesn't have a job and is playing the role of a stay-at-home mom. As for the questionable social media behavior, she still gives a few guys an abnormal amount of attention on instagram (liking all of their pics, even pics of their baby children. This one guy is a single dad.) So that still rubs me the wrong way.. But she's been posting recently on facebook how much she loves me which is nice to see her publicly brag about our affinity. She still hasn't mentioned marriage (as some of you can recall, several months ago a friend made a comment to her about us getting married and she said "yeahhhh don't see that happening.") I wasn't planning on getting married tomorrow, but the way she said that rubbed me the wrong way. But like I said, we're in an up-cycle right now and things are going okay. I still work a ton. The house we moved into (about a year ago) is nice. Just me, her, her kid, my kid, and our new baby together. So what's up guys?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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randalljohnson

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so you work 80h per week and have kid with unfaithful wife.
dont worry..

it will be better
Unfaithful? Unfaithful would be if she cheated on me. Which I don't believe she has. And she's my girlfriend, dude. Not my wife.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
 

sazc

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
No, that's a different guy.

Man bigdave had me so entertained, I forgot about Randall Johnson
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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marmel75

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
I dont get why so many men think this is some sort of good thing? It's like people who say they study for 6 hours. They study for 1 or 2, and waste the other 4 with all sorts of nonsense. I finally hit over six figures and work about 15 hours a week.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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