"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey all. For those of you who aren't familiar with me and my relationship with my girlfriend, look on my profile under my Posts and you can read my previous threads on here.

Life has been a rollercoaster for me. I work close to 80 hours a week. My baby is almost a year old, and my kid (from my other relationship) is almost 10. Time sure does fly. For the real meat and potatoes-- my girlfriend. We're still together. It's been 2 years that we've been together now. It's the same type of ordeal-- up and down. Right now it's up. Which is good. She still doesn't have a job and is playing the role of a stay-at-home mom. As for the questionable social media behavior, she still gives a few guys an abnormal amount of attention on instagram (liking all of their pics, even pics of their baby children. This one guy is a single dad.) So that still rubs me the wrong way.. But she's been posting recently on facebook how much she loves me which is nice to see her publicly brag about our affinity. She still hasn't mentioned marriage (as some of you can recall, several months ago a friend made a comment to her about us getting married and she said "yeahhhh don't see that happening.") I wasn't planning on getting married tomorrow, but the way she said that rubbed me the wrong way. But like I said, we're in an up-cycle right now and things are going okay. I still work a ton. The house we moved into (about a year ago) is nice. Just me, her, her kid, my kid, and our new baby together. So what's up guys?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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randalljohnson

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so you work 80h per week and have kid with unfaithful wife.
dont worry..

it will be better
Unfaithful? Unfaithful would be if she cheated on me. Which I don't believe she has. And she's my girlfriend, dude. Not my wife.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Roober

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
 

sazc

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Are you the guy that left his wife for the new girl? I cant keep you guys straight .
No, that's a different guy.

Man bigdave had me so entertained, I forgot about Randall Johnson
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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marmel75

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you haven't realized it already, its never worth it to work that much. I used to do it too...never again.
I dont get why so many men think this is some sort of good thing? It's like people who say they study for 6 hours. They study for 1 or 2, and waste the other 4 with all sorts of nonsense. I finally hit over six figures and work about 15 hours a week.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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